Sometimes I just want to throw something at him
I don't have a lot of experience with almost-teen boys, so this may be normal behavior. Regardless, it's starting to really piss me off.
SS12 (almost 13) likes to make sarcastic, mean comments about people -- not ones he's with, necessarily. He'll talk poorly about the school bus driver, how she's just old and mean and they all hate her. (From the sounds of it, she enforces rules and won't let them behave like hooligans. She's not a dragon lady.) DH tries to head him off a bit, reinforcing that regardless of what he thinks, he needs to behave and be polite to people.
There's a current commercial that shows three elderly women sledding and reliving some of their childhood joy. I admit I'm a sap, but that commercial gets to me. But I've always felt a lot of empathy and love for older people. I spent a lot of time with my grandparents and their friends and loved all the stories. My last remaining grandparent is in poor mental and physical health, it's Christmas time, I'm a bit more emotional these days.
Last night, the commercial comes on and he spends the entire time scoffing. "This is stupid. They're too old. They look like they should already be dead. Like they can really remember being kids."
Then when something came up about an 80-year-old still working part time; "She can't even remember her name, probably. How can she work? That's just stupid."
I finally had enough and said that plenty of people in their 80s are still sharp and have a lot to offer. He just snorted dismissively and said something along the lines of "yeah, right."
Probably not a big deal. A lot of it's probably his age and usual kids discounting anyone they see as old (though I was never that way). And I'll admit to being super-sensitive these days. But good Lord, this kid rides my last nerve. Every time I start to think I'm being unfair and should make more effort with him, he says or does something that makes me think "hmm -- why am I supposed to like this little twit, again?"