So its been maybe a month since SS pissed me off to the point that i decided i was no longer doing nice things for him, especially since DH and BM don't do anything to correct his behavior. well, DH tells me that he just had a talk with BM and she told him that she is sick of SS and does not want to be around him or spend time with him, take him out because he embarrases her with his disrespectfulness,etc. etc.... which is exactly the way i feel. and DH says hey you sound like hardatwork and she responds that she feels bad that he is like that and that i have to deal with that when he is over. she says she is so tired of it that she is about to sign him up and ship him off to military school. now, i know what a punk SS is, but even with everything and even though he is not my child i still have a problem with this. I would love for SS to improve and learn manners and responisbility but its never gonna happen if his parents dont start manning up and taking charge and punishing the little "darling" the way he should be. i mean, if she says he is grounded then why when DH calls him does he say he is over at a friends house? i never heard of that kind of grounding. i think she needs a dictionary so she can figure out the meaning of the word. not to mention if he is grounded why is he going to birthday parties, getting treated to dinner, movies, putt putt, go carts. is it any wonder the kid doesnt give a crap?!! he's grounded and it dont mean S***!! so DH tells me that BM would like to sit down with me and get an outside prospective as what can be done to change SS behavior, as my BD5 is really well beahved. It is because when i punish her she stays punished. it has been about 9 months since she threw a tantrum at bed time and kept arguing with me that she didnt want to go to bed and guess what happened? i started by telling her if she didnt stop i was going to start taking toys, and when she continued i started picking up her stuff and took a bunch of her stuff into my room, and it has been there ever since. and you know what? she hasnt had a problem going to bed since. its been a little over a year since i took her tv out of her room and i already told her its gonna be a cold day in hell when she gets it back because all it caused for me was a headache at bed time because she wanted to watch one more movie. as far as im concerned the next time she is going to have a tv in her room will be when she moves out. some people may think its harsh, but i think that is just the way the parenting game is played. and i think that sending SS to military school is the lazy parents way of raising kids. they're your damn kids, why are you going to have someone else raise them just because they arent turning out the way you want, i think they need to put in more effort before they try to dump their "problem" on someone else.