Oh f*ck my life
Now the dog is f*cking sick. Most likely he ate something while cooped up in SD hell hole of a room. I do not live like a freaking person hoarders but SD does. Just like her fucking mess of mother. I have to go on a mission every week or so to find my damn dishes in her room. Not to mention the freaking wrappers and crap in there.
kicker here DH and SD leave for a trip tomorrow morning and I'm stuck here dealing with the dog.
I have the same f*cking conversation with DH about SD not being able to watch a damn gnat. Every f*cking time SD watches the dogs I end up with a sick dog from them eating crap. I am so done with this. She is 16 for f*ck sakes not 6. Stop f*cking around with stupid fake eyelashes and start paying attention to something else.
at this point I'm ready to pull the divorce trigger. I am so f*cking done with DH and SD.
oh and I had to tell SD to stop f*cking watching Tv and to go pack. It's 8 pm and they leave tomorrow morning at 4:30 am. She has had all freaking week to pack of course it's always I will do it later.
Oh and I just took all the dirty laundry on the floor in her bathroom. She has two laundry hampers and can't seem to find them. So from now on if it's on the floor in the bathroom it becomes mine. I am DONE
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It's not only disrespectful
It's not only disrespectful from your SD, but also (more) from your husband. HE should make sure her room and bathroom are not all f*cked up. I assume he is clueless to the issues. Or worse, just expects you to manage it.
I don't blame you for wanting to pull the trigger. Only so much can stack before that sh!t topples.
Your DH should be bending over backwards to keep you happy
Your DH should be bending over backwards to keep you happy and he does not seem to realize it. Hopefully this time apart will be good for both of you. Take the time to assess what you really need and want, then when he comes back you can have one of those "come to Jesus" conversations. He not only needs to make up for what he did, but he has to step up and start parenting his kid.
I agree he should be
and I think he has become a bit complaciant again. There will be a very frank conversation at therapy when he is back next weeek.
SK's cannot be trusted with
SK's cannot be trusted with live animals. Sad, but true. I hope your pup feels better.
OMG yes
Its just so annoying. DS...who was off yesterday ran to the vets for me to get our older dogs meds. Why because he knew I was in the office yesterday and was going to have rush around to get. His words..."Mom I got it. Don't worry I'm off and can run there no problem".
The sad part...DS is high functioning autisc..and even he can work out that I was stressed out and that the dogs meds were important.
He then came over and watched the dogs while DH and SD ran the eye doctor before I got home.
I'm going to diagnose
I'm going to diagnose a DH problem here. If SD can't be trusted then DH need to step up and make up for her failings.
This was my exact conversation
last year and the same one this year. SD IS NOT CAPABLE OF DOING THIS...therefore YOU, DH, NEED TO DO IT.
DH obviously
Is not taking your marriage seriously and has gone back to status quo...sadly which is normal. Outside of divorce you would need to make HIM suffer the consequences of SD's actions.
I agree...he thinks things are ok
So he has slide back into status quo.
The excuses from both of them drive me INSANE.
SD'S excuse...for the burning rice she could definately smell, "I thought it was outside"
SD's excuse for not greeting me..."I thought she was busy"
SD's excuse for locking the dogs in her room "Well you wanted me to watch them...so I just kept them in there"
ALWAYS AN EXCUSE. DH tries the same shit.....
Oh and btw...alot of SD;s bad habits....DH does the same damn thing...which he realized last night as we he was getting the excuses from SD. I promptly told DH ...oh good get a good look...this is what SD's life will look like...a string of failed relationships because she can't understand that the world does not revolve around her. People can only take this shit for so long...
Sounds like he went right
Sounds like he went right back into his comfort zone and in doing that undermines you and your marriage.
I hope you use the times he's gone to put your home back in order and decide how or if you want to reshare it with him if he returns. Disrespecting you, even by proxy of his spawn? after the shit he's put you through? I'd say screw it, bag up all her dirty shit and put it in the garage and then do a deep clean of his stuff too. You. Deserve. Rspect. especially in your own home. If hubby hasn't figured that out...he is never going to. It doesn't fit his comfort zone and he and his spawn don't intend for that to change.
I'm sorry if I'm harsh. I'm angry for you.
I'm Furious For You
Dog Lover here....with a capital L as you see. I think this would be my "cake throwing" moment. (Cake Throwing is a story from a SM friend of mine...she had enough of SK antics, broke and threw her birthday cake across the table, got up and told THEM to clean it up...LOL).
With all that said, I'm a clean freak. No one is living like a pig in my home. My bio kids didn't do it and it was the same for SKs. I don't know how you do it. Use your alone time to be with your pup and consider your future. Sometimes alone is better. Hugs.
Don’t tell a 16yo to pack.
This was a perfect opportunity for a natural consequence to bite her in the ass. And bite daddy in the ass too.
She doesn't care about her
She doesn't care about her stuff or yours then YOU get to deal with it the way you want. She doesn't want it, then bye-bye clothing. This is what my tactic was and it WORKED.
I implemented that last nigh
with the clothes on the bathroom floor. My kids pointed out I would NEVER have tolerated that with them. Its a common bathroom and nope I gathed that crap up and into a garbage it went....next up is the makeup strewn all over the counter. BYE BYE...
Good. If they leave their
Good. If they leave their things in shared areas and they go back to BMs without cleaning it up, then they don't care and it's gone. Their personal items don't trump other's living space.