1st time blogger..engaged to 49yr old DF. I am 53, second marriage. I have no children (medical reason's). DF, 3 adult children. SD 24, SS 22 and SD 19. BM still a big part of DF life even tho kids are adults. SS seems to be nice to me but the girls are not. SD19 is horrible and when i try to talk to DF regarding this he is defensive. He tells me girls are protective of him. I tell him it hurts my feelings. I own my home, same job 24 yrs, wonderful siblings, parents, nieces, nephews. No baggage. Have never had trouble meeting new people. Have been with DF for almost 4 yrs. He wants us to be married. I am unsure becoz of his children. The girls always talk about BM when their father and I are together. When DF is at my home, SD19 calls his cell constantly. DF is kind to me and has good qualities. He has been divorced for 15 yrs. He tells me daughters will grow to like me. Hello, its been 4 yrs! Wondering if this situation will really ever change? BM calls DF with everyday kid troubles when i think she would only call if they are hurt. SD19 and SS22 still live with their mother and her third husband.