I'm going crazy
So I think I am depressed. Which makes me really sad because I am pregnant and always dreamed of this being so exciting. But now I worry and cry every day. All I can think about is what BM and SD are gonna do. they are going to be so mean to me and make my life hell. I try not to worry but that doesn't stop me. I'm in the biggest funk. Maybe it's the hormones. I haven't had any enery in the last week. I have gotten in bed every day this week at 6:00. DH is being wonderful because he knows I feel bad from the pregnancy.
We have SD9 this weekend and I'm not looking forward to it. I love having her there but I'm so tired of the drama with BM. But we're not telling her this weekend so I wont have that to deal with. Going to wait another two weeks so I can go to the doctor first.
Oh I just wish things were different. I wish that BM would realize I am a good person and SD would realize I'm not gonna hurt her mom. I just hate this. Why are people so ignorant and irrational. Well hope everyone has a good weekend!
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Dont let her rain on your
Dont let her rain on your parade.. thats what she wants. Remember, she doesnt run your household and she has no business butting into your life and making things hard on you. BMs will never see "us" for what or who we really are, they make up something in their heads and thats their opinion.. they are biast no matter what. Dont exhaust yourself and let yourself down over a person like that, she doesnt deserve it at all. Dont feel bad for being pregnant.. this is an exciting time for you and you deserve to be happy! Really though if it gets that bad.. I dont really know the extent of her harassment but mabe you can get a court order to keep her away from you? Its putting a lot of strain on you guys. Just remember people like her have more crap come from their mouth than their a**.
I have gone through this
I have gone through this same situation! My BD is 16 months old and my SD is 13. My pregnancy was sooo stressful. I'm actually surprised I had a healthy baby and she was delivered right on time. 16 months later my SD and her BM are still causing my husband and I grief. To make a long story short... We are currently in a custody battle with her over the kids. My SD has accused me in court of being physically and verbally abusive to her. She has also accused my DH of same. However there is no proof of any of these allegations other than her word against ours. My DH and I have been court ordered to attend counseling and parenting classes now, and the BM is just lovin' it that she is finally getting some revenge on her ex and on me.
I used to say the same things you did. "Why can't we all just get along?" "Why can't the BM realize I'm not the enemy and I don't want her child at my home just as much as she doesnt want her at my house?" ITS A WASTE OF TIME TO THINK THIS WAY! The BM will NEVER like you. She will never want to be your friend. She will never want to talk to you at soccer games or trade recipes with you. It's just not going to happen. You have to look at it from her point of view. Your SD is her child. She has NO control over you or your husband. That drives the BM CRAZY! But if it were your child going over to her father's house and he had a new wife that would drive you crazy as well.
My advice to you is to not let it get you down. I know that's easier said than done. You have your own baby on the way now, and that baby is going to be YOUR LIFE! If the BM wants to throw a fit, harrass you, and carry on like a little child about everything just let her!! Don't fight back! Just think of it like this... "The best revenge in life is to live better". If you show the BM that none of her crap phases you that will drive her even more crazy!
My DH & I are happily attending the parenting classes and counseling. We have gladly gone along with all of the BM's craziness. Trust me... it drives her more nuts that we are sooo nice and compliant with her wishes than if we sunk to her level. Misery likes company.... DONT BE YOUR BMS COMPANY!! Stay positive! You are gonna be a mama soon!
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