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DH acts like that sad guy that every office has who tries too hard to be liked

furkidsforme's picture

Does anyone elses DH do this?

Often around the skids, specifically Prince (SS16) DH just acts like such a douche. He tries SO HARD to be likeable and funny and to try desperately to get SS to engage with him. He gets all cheesy and tries to make puns and when he laughs its very phoney and the only way I can describe it is "HAYUCK YUCK YUCK". It's really fake and overdone.

It is depressing to watch a grown ass man try so desperately for a scrap of his childs attention or interest. SS is at that age when all us adults know nothing, and DH trying to play this rouse makes it so much worse. SS is also on the autism spectrum, so warm and personable interactions aren't really his forte anyhow. He's pretty cold and indifferent. SS is also 16. Watching DH try to carry on with him like SS is still in that "C'mon Buddy and ruffle his head" stage is kinda pathetic.

It's a huge turnoff. He reminds me of some sad guy in an office trying too hard to be liked.

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Modernworld1011's picture

i know it well. It is about their own insecurities, I think. You are exactly right, it is normal for teenagers not to be interested in their parents. It is part of the growing up process. They need to grow away to become healthy independent adults. You husband is afraid that the distance is divorce related I would guess. They all seem to become hyper vigilant seeing every off center moment as a result of the divorce and the potential damage it may have caused. Presumably the parents divorcing was in the best interest of all, but the minute the divorce happens they seem to forget that they probably would have damaged their kids even more had they remained together and then do anything to make and keep then happy behavior sets in. Yes, it is a shame that they go this route as it seems far more damaging to the children than anything else. Good luck with the situation.

Willow2010's picture

Yup..my DH does this to with his 20 year old kid. It is sick. It is like he reverts back to a 16 year old trying to get attention. Makes me wanna vomit.

Mercury's picture

I am going to count myself lucky that my husband does the exact opposite. When his kids act aloof, i.e., like normal preteens, he retreats. It's annoying because if that's the way everyone is going to act, I'd rather the skids not even come over in the first place. Their mere silent presence creates tension in the house so I'm sure it would be even worse if dh did the things you described.