So, I'm new to this, but thought it might help with my anxiety. I have been married to my DH for almost 3 years, but have been with him for 5 years. When we began dating, his divorce was being finalized. The joint parenting agreement for his son has not been modified since it was originally filed and signed.

My DH was losing his job due to a merger and had been looking for a new position for a year. however, his skills are on a very specific technology and in our area there were no jobs. So, a company from out of state called him and he interviewed and we had to make a difficult decision, either stay in the area, lose the job, and hope/pray that something comes along, or take the out of state job, move, and be able to pay child support for his son. So, we took the job out of state and moved DH, myself and 2 month old DD out of state and away from family and friends.

Well, BM filled for state review of child support on the day DH started his new position. She also wants to modify the visitation, which is fine because the situation isn't what it was, but she wants to give my DH Columbus day. However, she is demanding sole legal custody.

SHe is not stable and DH doesn't want to lose joint legal custody. She has been engaged at least 3 times in the 5 years. THe latest one she moved in with, was working on renting out her house, and sold all her furniture. He cheated on her and she broke it off. Moved back into her house, which my DH helped her move back into. While she was at her boyfriend's house, she moved SS into a new school, but now that she's back in her house she's out of district. Anyway, she got back together with the guy and then broke up again. The first breakup was the weekend after SS birthday and the second was Christmas.

My DH got the paperwork while I was out of town and called BM attorney directly, indicating to her that if he could avoid hiring an attorney himself that he would potentially pay BM attorney fees. I begged him to get an attorney to protect his interests and those of his son. And he did it.

However, the attorney is indicating that it might be difficult to keep his joint legal custody and he is making it sound like if he had not gotten an attorney he would have had a better chance of keeping it.

I think I did the right thing...just wanting to protect him and his son. He sounds a little resentful.

I did what I could to help him, but that's all I can do. Was I wrong? Should I let him represent himself and if it ends up badly comfort him?