To tell the entire story would take a very long time! I'm a young SM to a 5yr old SD. I also have a 3yr old BS to an amazing husband. I LOATH SD. She has lived with her mother the last 5yrs because my husband can't stand to be any where near her or her mother. It literally makes him sick. When I got with my husband 5yrs ago he told me his ex would do terrible things to him. Rape him, beat him with objects, even try shoving objects in male places. Just terrible. His mother has always been fond of SD. In fact, she refuses to see my BS at all. (When she found out I was have a boy she went around telling everyone she was mad because their were already too many boys). Holidays she would leave gifts in the house when we weren't home and when she did stop by it was only because relatives were coming in from out of state and she didn't want to look bad by not knowing absolutely anything about BS. She has tortured us for the past 5yrs because although she can't take SD (SD has always had bad behavior .. constant crying, hurting others) she wants custody of her (she had an abortion at young age and said it was a girl, just never got over it so she hates all her kids). So she use to always call children services over stupid things thinking they'd hand SD over to her eventually. And I mean stupid things, no shoes in summertime type of things. Anyway, she would always invite my husband over to parties she would throw and purposely have SD there to try and shove them together although he'd get frustrated and leave. Last winter she drunkenly told him how she thought SD was being molested and and beaten and he should do something. So we decided to get her. Not out of parental love which is what his mother is making it out to be, but who would want to see anyone go through that? We got her and here his mother completely lied. There was nothing wrong with SD!!!! NOTHING! She was a complete nightmare!!! She would abuse my BS until he was fearful of her. He would literally hide in his closet all day until we would force him out of it! And if she didn't get her way she would smear poop and boogers all over my house!! It has been 4-5 months since she's been here and the room she slept in STILL stinks from all the crap she's done!! I've scrubbed the floors, walls and I can't get rid of it! I've burned blankets and now I have to burn the bed!! I'm still finding poop and buggers in hidden places!! One time, we had a sitter come over who was a close friend of ours because we needed a break. The sitter has a BS same age as our BS. When we told SD we were leaving and someone was coming over with someone they could play with, first she through a huge fit because she didn't want us to leave and then when she saw their wasn't another girl for her to play with she became outraged and glared at the sitter until we left. Later the sitter told us as soon as we were gone SD began throwing toys at my BS! She was put in time out but threw a fit! After time out SD became outraged again because she wanted ALL of the sitters attention. So she went upstairs before bed and smeared poop all over walls, mashed into carpet, all over bathroom then used mine and BS toothbrushes on herself!!!! After that the abuse to my son just kept getting worse before I told my husband she HAD to go. BS and I couldn't take it anymore. I have to re-potty train him because he thinks it's ok to do what she did (smearing poop on things) (oh and yes she goes to the bathroom just fine, in fact sometimes she would go in her pants because she didn't "feel like getting up and going")She is seeing a therapist but she is still beating kids up and lying. She is the spitting image of her mother whom I LOATH! And not just appearance, since she's lived with her she is all her! The lying .. her attitude. Hurting others. We tried spanking since time out didn't work but it's like her emotions are completely off also. She doesn't feel pain. She'll cry a second and then be done. Emotions as well. It's just like she has none! I know this probably sounds odd or false and I feel like I'm going crazy! But I loath this child!!! I wish she would just disappear off this Earth! And no one understands!! I have to protect my child. And everyone who asks and I tell this too thinks I'm crazy and I should be helping SD, but my BS is going to be the one who ends up in therapy because of her!!!!!