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Submitted by Fading on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 9:40am

This weekend DH went to pick up his bike that he lent to his nephew for a month or so, it was gone. We then found out it should be at SIL's house with his other nephew. Nope not there either. So SIL went to the house that his nephew had been renting at a few months ago and the owner said the garage was broke into and the bike was stolen...UGH. So nephew is buying DH a new bike. Well during this conversation, SIL brought up that she had some of SD's toys, baby book, etc. that BM had left when they moved out of SIL's rental house. She said that she also had some pictures for SD of BM and DH. I told her that we will take them and save them for her when she gets older. Then SIL put her God pants on and told me that I should hang up pictures of DH and BM TOGETHER in MY HOUSE. Ummm...NO. When I told her that I would just keep them in a box for SD, she went off and started telling me that I need to put them up for SD so she can remember her parents being TOGETHER and that if I didn't it would be like stealing her memories of her parents TOGETHER. I told her that I would NOT put up pictures of DH and BM together and that she can have them if she wants them but they would NOT be put up in my house. SIL continued rambling and I finally cut her off and told her that she should keep her mouth SHUT until she becomes a stepparent and then come talk to me about this stuff. She said that "it is no different than being a babysitter in someone elses house"...Ummm, it is different because it's MY HOUSE and MY DH. She hung up on me.
Why do people who have never been in a step-position think they know what is right and wrong and how I should do/feel about things? I told DH about the conversation and he said there is no way in hell we would ever hang up pictures of him and BM together in the house, not even for SD. I told him it is fine if SD wants a picture of her and BM up in her room but that is the only thing and only place that it is allowed. He agreed and is going to talk to SIL about her thinking she is a step-coach. I think he should just smack her and be done with it , lol.

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Submitted by soverysad on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 9:44am

What a bitch. A babysitter, huh? Geez, since when do babysitters help pay the bills? Since when do babysitters have to help with homework, do laundry, cook, clean and be available every minute of the damn day?

Next time tell her that when she pays the bills in YOUR home, she can decide what kind of decor is appropriate.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.

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Submitted by almostover on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 10:10am

You would not want to hear my reaction to this. Believe me, when I was done with SIL, there would not be any further contact forever. I would disown that part of the family. That is just insane to even suggest.

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Submitted by luckykell on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 12:03pm

I would have instantly become a member of the slap-a-ho tribe. That's so not cool!

"Live well, Love much, Laugh often."

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Submitted by DISbelief on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 12:37pm

What an idiot.

My sister had a picture of me and my ex up in her house for 3 years after we split. DH and I were together and engaged. She was moving, so I thought it was the perfect opportunity to ask her NOT to put it back up in her new house. She told me I was wrong, and that my ex is still the father of my kids (no shit??) and that they should see pictures of us together to keep that memory alive. I told her this "I agree, they should always know that there mom and dad did love each other when they were born. I think it is important for them to know where they came from and that they were a product of LOVE. HOWEVER, they are still very young (4 and 6 at the time) and the pictures are confusing to them. And it was also MY responsibility to keep that memory available to them NOT HERS!"

She was mad at me... but she refrained from hanging the picture up in her new house. A little respect is all I ask!

DISbelief~

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Submitted by soverysad on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 2:36pm

Me too!

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.