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Submitted by Evil Step Witch... on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 1:26am

So family court is almost here. Thursday is the day we will find out what is happening with custody with SD6. I hope the magistrate realises that she is better off with her BF and me. Can’t believe BM wants to up root her once again. When is this kid going to get a brake? When are WE going to get a brake!
SD’s teacher has written a letter for me, stating how well she is going at school, my employer as written me a letter stating how detrimental it would be to his business should I be forced to leave the company due to relocation.
SD does not want to live with BM, she has told friends and family and my husband and I. I don’t know how to feel about all this. One part of me is selfish and wants DH all to myself but the other part of me loves her and wants her to be looked after well which will only happen if she stays with us.
I don’t want to move again, I have just found a great job and love the people I work with. DH likes his job and SD likes her school. Aaarrrhhh so frustrating.
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Submitted by Ex4life on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 2:17pm

Good luck in court. I really hope the judge looks at what is best for your SD. Most times they do I believe, we just don't always agree with the outcome.

On a side note. I really doubt the judge is going to care about your job or your situation at all. I will admit I haven't gone back and reread your past posts so please correct me if I'm wrong. The situation is just between your BF and the mom. You are even less of concern because you are not even married to dad yet. Please do your BF a huge favor and stay back and quiet during all of this unless his attorney says otherwise. You could come across as an oversteeping stpemom and really hurt his chances. We all know you only have your STBSD's best interest at heart, but mom and the judge may see it as interference and rule against you.

Keep us posted. We are rooting for you!

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Submitted by Evil Step Witch... on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 10:59pm

Thanks for you comment. I am the third legal parent to my SD and I am married to the BF. I have to stand before the court and tell them why I think she should stay with me and my husband so keeping quite will be a little hard lol anyways we will see what happens.
Ps. I disagree that the court doesn't care what our job situation is, I think if you have 2 parents that are working and another that doesn't and gets paid by our tax, which is BM, she can not provide for her children and I know its not all about clothes and food etc its also about love and attention which she does not provide aswell.

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Submitted by ksmom4 on Wed, 05/11/2011 - 9:07pm

I wish you the best of luck. You and your family will be in my prayers. I know how hard this is on everyone. My family is going through the same thing. We go to court in 13 days and counting. The BM keeps moving the skids around and I can really see the effects. Not only them but my DH and in my kids as well. Hopefully your judge will think of your SD and what this could do to her future.

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Submitted by Evil Step Witch... on Fri, 05/13/2011 - 7:20pm

Thank you so much Ksmom4.

The judge is going to take a few days to look over our case, we will know Tuesday morning 9am.
My husband was wonderful in the court room, the judge seemed to act very positive to us. I had my say which was great and BM solicitor tried to put me down but the judge corrected the solicitor saying I was using the correct terminology (biological mother) She was trying to claim that I think of myself as the childs mother.... it came across that I am the step mum and the Bio mum was not thinking of her childs best interest.
I feel pretty good about it all.