When I got home from work today DH tells me that SD has an award from school for neat writing etc, I was very proud of her. She also forgot to bring it home but once I get it I will be putting it up on the wall. SD and I still have our moments where we clash but things seem to be going well at the moment.
I would like some advice on one topic. SD has asked to call me mum but before you Bios go crazy read the story first.
When SD's cuz asked her why she didn't call me mum, SD and I just looked at eachother speechless. I then told her she can call me what ever she wanted so she said she would like to call me mum. After calling me mum on and off she went to BM's house and she and her sister drummed it into SD's head that she only has ONE mum. Now I get that to a point because that is BM's child but isn't it more about what makes SD feel good, after all she is only 6 and her friends at school call me her mum and pretty much everyone else. Anyways she stopped for a while on only a month ago she asked me if she could call me mum again, I said sure, see how it goes for a few days and if you like it you can keep doing it. she has from time to time but I can see she feels bad about it after she has said it because of BM.
How do you talk to a 6 year old about not feeling bad about it if its something she wants to do and doesn't hurt anyone, BM just doesn't like it.
And I will also point something else out - I always wanted to be called mum for the first time from my Bio's before anyone else but she is here now so I have put that aside for her.
What do you say to her??
Also please read my history to understand a little more.