Full time step parent
Hopefully others are in the same position that I am. I met my step son when he was 2. His parents adopted him and then divorced a year later. After many custody trials and Superior Court appeals, his Dad and I have had primary physical custody of him since he was 5. His AM moved to her boyfriend's (now husband's) house over an hour away and she sees him Wednesday nights until 7:30 and every other weekend. My SS and my sons (26 and 24) and I are so bonded. We are a really close family. Unfortunately, AM and SD constantly try to undermind mine. They tell SS that "it's a fact that I am only his step mom and my sons are his step brothers." His only "true" brother is AM and SDs five year old son. They manipulate him so much. It;s their choice to live far away and not move back to him but they make him bear the responsibility of their move. He always has to text or call them. He has to play video games with SD online. They try to make their presence known wherever he's involved. At school and with sports, they want everyone that she is his mother and I am only SM. That's fine but I am the one doing everything for him. He's with me constantly. AD has meetings one or two nights a weeks and he's with me. I do the driving to practices and activities. I get him school ready. Put money in his lunch account. Buy his clothing and shoes. Do EVERYTHING for him and yet they diminish my role in his life. My husband always tries to be in the middle and not push back but I get so frustrated.
Any comments would be appreciated.