Update on XW
Hello!! Hope everyone is doing well. I enjoy reading the posts and get valuable insight from each and every one of you.
I have an update in regards to BF and his XW. For those who haven't read my posts (She left BF for a married man in 2014, he never got divorced and left her for his wife in 2018).
She tried to break us up…failed. She tried to get their son to demand “me or your GF”…failed. She tried to get their son hate BF, and his behavior was terrible for a while…failed.
Thanks to the therapist, BF started changing HIS behavior in dealing with his son’s behavior. Son’s behavior at home improved and their relationship has gotten stronger.
Once XW found out about this (Due to all the inquisitions) she has now unilaterally decided with their son that he will stay at her house all the time during his online virtual semester; using the excuses of how she doesn’t want the school-issued laptop breaking during transition of both homes, and that BF needs to “go back to work or they’ll fire you” (He is in IT and working remotely). When BF told her no, she declared, “We’ll have a discussion later about your work schedule!” and stormed off.
She also has decided that she will take their son to all soccer activities. She purposely is keeping all of the equipment “to air out.”
We have always had our date nights on Saturday after he drops off son. BF got a kitten. XW is picking son up at BF’s house (Instead of him dropping off) to “see the kitten.” I know it is a ploy to break us up as she exhibited this behavior when BF was with his XGF, which caused a lot of problems and ultimately their break up. He and I have discussed no reaction, just come get me when they leave…another fail.
BF has hired an attorney. The attorney filed a motion to adopt the current custody to ensure continuity of contact an affidavit of irreparable harm (XW is pressuring the child to his detriment when he should not be involved). I will keep you all posted! Stay safe everyone!!