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HELP! Bm told Sd to push pregnant me down the stairs

drivinmecrazy25's picture

So I have been battling my SD head full of LICE!
BM implied we gave it to her but I noticed it as soon as we made it back from our weekend trip to pick her up. I did not know what it was until the huge bugs were falling out all around her. I have babies in the house the oldest is 15 months. All her mother said I'd "she didn't have it here". That is what she always says! Since I have had to sit with my sd for hours and comb and pick these nasty things out she has opened up. We talk and her attitude has changed. She has told me thing that bm tells her to do. Bm told her to push me down the stairs when I was pregnant with our first baby the 15 month old. She told me that after I admitted to my sd that I used to be afraid of that when we walked the stairs. Her answer was that she wouldn't want my kids to grow up without their mom. I knew she wanted ti do that so I would make her go up or down by herself. She would stop and look at me when we walked together.
Bm has also told her to hit and be mean to my kids. Sd grabbed my 15 mon old by the neck and shook her. She was also told to do it when we are not watching. The dumb 0%"#- called CPS on us because we jumped her for the lice. We turned that around on her and had the take picture of her poor cut up scalp. Bm teaches her lots of hate and so does her grandmother but sd can't let step-dad or grandfather know. We even recorded her telling us these things on video. I have nightmares now of people tring to kill or take my children. What kind of mother tells her daughter not to have fun or it will break her heart. Our lawyer just advised us to document everything. Is there more we can do. Dad is hurt and upset he wanted to send her home but I told him it won't fix things they might get worse. If anyone has some advice please share it. My kids are in danger because of a jealous bm....

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lastchance's picture

Wow. How scary that must be! Does SD enjoy coming to your house? If she does, is she old enough for you and DH to talk to her about her actions and tell her if she hurts your kids on purpose she will not be welcome in your home?...also...therapy ASAP! This poor kid is going to hurt someone very badly someday and it is her mother's fault. That is just sad.

drivinmecrazy25's picture

She likes to visit because we do lots of family activities. She is 5 and we are talking to her and she understands but bm tells her in my sd words"Momma tells me to be mean and hit the baby everyday when she is making dinner except Saturday and Sunday." What a nut! I am scared for my babies the youngest is 6 months and SD is not allowed to be alone with them or my 12 year old.

buttercookie's picture

I'd tell SD5 the family activities are going to stop until she acts like part of the family and abusing others because BM wants her to is not being part of a family She's old enough to understand that she's behaving bad.

drivinmecrazy25's picture

we got it on video but not sure what it will do. Our lawyer said it is a child protective service matter. My H knows and wants to send her home. He won't tolerate her abuse on his babies. He don't understand why she is this way but I think her AA meetings have cleared her head and realised he is gone for good.

Queenofdenial's picture

Driveinmecrazy: I know your pain sadly. My SD has been actually doing those type of things. She tried to drown one of our children in the bath tub then tried to smoother our youngest daughter. Those are just the small things. Now that we are getting ready to have another baby SD tells people all the horrible thing she wants to do our newest baby. When DH asked her about her behavior she said BM told her to do these things so she could go live with her, if she didnt do them BM would be mad at her and cry. :jawdrop:

We tried counseling, and the counsler said you could try and put a cereal bowl over an exploding fire hydrant but its not going to work. So we could give SD counseling all day everyday and it wouldnt work, because BM will just back track.

We did not believe SD for awhile. Untill a recent conversation were BM let one to many things slip. She basically said if she doesnt get custody then she will start having stories about my family. That I think SD is being abused because I was abused as a child ( so far from the truth). She just let her evil side come out to much and we can see the light so to speak.

So SD has not been at our home for a few weeks.... we have no clue what to do.

I know your pain. For me it came down to the safety and lives of my children or my SD and DH.
I told DH I will always choose our children before anyone.

drivinmecrazy25's picture

wow! So that is pretty much it. There is no light at the end of the tunnel. This is crazy! How can they get away with that? I hope things work out for youa nd keep your babies safe. My sd held the baby under water too while I was bathing them... :jawdrop:

Queenofdenial's picture

oh my dear; I'm so sorry. My sd started acting that way a little younger then 5 and over the last few years it just keeps getting worse. If you ever need to talk pm me, or I could give you my email Smile

Rags's picture

Sounds like conspiracy to commit murder to me. Not that I am a lawyer or law enforcement professional. I am not.

It may be time to take your compiled information to the police. Make copies and give them to the police and let then haul the BM off for a night of fun in the interogation rooms.

Grrrrr! People like this are just evil.

IMHO of course.

Best regards.

Stick's picture

Drivinmecrazy - Don't hesitate - go after BM with both guns blazing!! Smile (figuratively speaking!!!)

But as far as your 5 year old, please don't let your DH just send her back to BM. That kid sounds like she herself is in danger. If she is willing at 5 to hurt a baby or a pregnant woman because her "mom told her to", then she needs help and to get out of that environment.