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Deekay's picture

I'm just curious... do people on this site tend to meet up with each other outside of this site for more support if they reside near each other? just wondering since I'm not even a week old on this site Smile

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Kes's picture

I would love to meet up with other step parents from the site, however, I am one of the few UK members here, so the small matter of the large pond gets in the way a little!  

LuluOnce's picture

I would be very interested to meet with steps from this site because steplife can get so lonely and feel so isolating. However, I would also be extremely cautious.

Shortly after I joined this site, there was a situation that occurred between two or three of the members who connected IRL or on FB or in some other way that removed all anonymity. I don't know the exact circumstances, but they ended up with quite a bit of bad blood between them, which was aired out on the site. I don't know if the accusations between the members were true, but many of the other members took sides, posts turned incredibly vicious and a ton of members got banned. Full disclosure: I wasn't sorry to see a few of them leave, but there were definitely a handful that were seasoned steps and provided valuable perspectives on step dynamics which I'd found very useful, especially in my first year of step life. 

I really like to believe that we have a great group of members and everyone is here to support each other and offer an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, but I also know that people are highly unpredictable. I think it'd be very hesitant to meet up now. It's a tough place to be in. I think we all crave connection and understanding from others who have a similar experience, but there is a great risk to moving this connection offline, even if the benefit could be great as well. 

 

Siemprematahari's picture

I understand wanting to meet someone who is going through a similar situation as yourself but remember you are virtually chatting with strangers online so one should always be cautious. I get the feeling lonely because I also don't have many people in my life that share the same step life dynamic. 

At the end of the day you never know what's on the other side. For the most part I think a good portion of the posters here have the best of intentions and are caring and supportive but always tread carefully should you meet someone online.

Deekay's picture

I understand the risks of meeting people outside of the blog and forum. I was just curious if it was done since I am new to this site and to the step world.