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Dc3sc2's picture

So annoyed right now so needed a rant. 
Dh said he would no longer be running round all weekend taking kids here there and everywhere like he does. Usually sd10 wants to leave on Saturday and sd12 wants to stay until Sunday. So today he put his foot down (for all of 10 minutes) and says no sd10 I'm not running you home then your sister again tomorrow if you want to come over that's fine but you come for the weekend. Sd10 goes upstairs 10minutes later dh gets a text off bm. Sd10 has been crying on the phone she wants to go home and they just happen to be going out tomorrow so she needs to come home today. Dh shouts up to sd10 to get her stuff ready and not even 30seconds later she's downstairs with all her stuff ready to go. Now I said sd12 should go too that way we're saying we won't be doing it anymore. No sd12 wants to stay so we're not going to make her go. So all in all sd10 got what she wanted bm said jump and he did sd12 also got to do what she wanted and dh is again wasting money and 2 hours of his weekend time taking sd10 back. 
While I'm also ranting we agreed kids would be reading every night before bed. I had to remind him to read with sd10 but dyslexic sd12 he wasn't bothered about because she can already read. We will pay £400 for a dyslexia test we will pay £250 for a pen that helps with dyslexia but we won't actually make her do any reading to help her. 
We agreed to an electronics limit but not for socialising (because of what the world is like right now) so both have been on the phone all weekend so then they're allowed their electronics. Mine have the same limit and send some texts/emails in all about 10minutes more than their limit. 
Im just so annoyed with him. My respect has literally plummeted I even called him a p***y before he left to take sd10 home. I know I shouldn't have done but I'm just so annoyed. 

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acef92's picture

I can totally understand you, I live the same every freaking week but I have this brat all week. I don't know why my DH can't be strict about many situations, he let SD control our life literally and this girl do what she wants. You have the right to get mad about this, this can't be tolerate. 

Dc3sc2's picture

I honestly couldn't cope with it all week. I salute you. 

decofru's picture

Seems like DH is WEAK and allows BM and his kids to wear the pants. That's not right at all, he should be listening to you his wife not BM. It doesn't make sense for kids to leave on different days its ridiculous,  sd 10 and 12 should have left together, no one was going to die!! Instead of wasting fuel and time and tyres! This shows weakness in front of the kids, they will lose respect for him and know their BM is in charge and has the power. 

 

You should have put your foot down and spoken sense into him. Who does that really? 

Dc3sc2's picture

I really did try but I pretty much got told if sd12 wants to stay she can stay. I have lost respect for him. Never mind these kids they have no respect for him anyway. If sd10 doesn't get her way she rings mummy. Mummy then sorts it for her. She once had stomach ache while she was here so rang her mum to ring dh to tell him to get her a hot water bottle!! Instead of just asking for it. She saw how fast she got her own way this time too. It's a joke. He said he would tell bm when he got there that he won't be doing it again let's see next week probably won't come at all which is fine with me but will upset him. 

Dc3sc2's picture

I have children myself and if mine rang me I'd of said speak to your dad. If he wasn't willing and they were really upset for an actual reason I would go pick them up. It wasn't for any reason her dad just bought her a new toy some nice juice and what she chose for dinner (which she didn't have because she went home) they're both as bad as each other catering to this dictator mummy won't let her be upset and daddy does wot mummy says. She's figured out exactly how to get what she wants.  

Gimlet's picture

Oh man, he jumped for BM, I would be pissed.  If crybaby SD wants to go home, then BM can pick her up.  If not, she waits. Ridiculous.

Dc3sc2's picture

Honestly if dh says no she will cry to mummy. Mummy will ring/text dh and Dh will give in to whatever it is. She obviously rules them both and always gets what she wants it's annoying me. I'd of said no if she needs to be home you should have told me yesterday. Or you can come pick her up but I'm not driving to and fro all weekend every weekend. I said he should take sd12 back. Those are the consequences. Rather than wasting money and time every weekend.

Dc3sc2's picture

Honestly if dh says no she will cry to mummy. Mummy will ring/text dh and Dh will give in to whatever it is. She obviously rules them both and always gets what she wants it's annoying me. I'd of said no if she needs to be home you should have told me yesterday. Or you can come pick her up but I'm not driving to and fro all weekend every weekend. I said he should take sd12 back. Those are the consequences. Rather than wasting money and time every weekend.

Dc3sc2's picture

Honestly I really don't know. Bm won't give up her kid free time (when pubs reopen and she can go on holiday) so no chance of him not seeing them. I reckon will go back to 2 nights once stuff reopens and she will be telling her she can't go home early every week. Supposedly she forgot she was meeting her friend at the park when he picked them up (not even meant to be meeting anyone at the moment anyway) he said he didn't think to tell bm to pick her up. I've told him I'm annoyed and even said if I ever want him to do anything should I text bm to ask him because it might actually get done then?