Not sure what to do.
SD is five. She will be six in April. BM continues to send her over to our house with dirty shirts, shirts that she has worn and sweated in and then taken off, so that SD can sleep in them/cuddle them/wear them.
SD constantly says that she wants/needs these shirts because they "smell like Mama." However, every time she leaves (we have her EOW), if there is dirty laundry in her room, I wash it - and that includes these shirts. She hasn't slept with a shirt that actually smelled anything like "Mama" in over two months, and yet she begs for them because she misses her mother and wants the "smell".
Should I just tell her that we wash the shirts? I want so badly to break her of this brainwashing, but I'm not sure how ethical it is. What are your thoughts?