SS the lying thief
I don't even feel badly anymore for disliking this kid. I mentioned on previous blog that SS14 (high functioningish autistic) has recently lost his calculator. Yesterday he tried taking calculators away from 2 teachers and 1 student claiming it was his. Then, one of the teachers told SS to give the calculator back. He refused. She stood in the doorway and again asked for the calculator. He refused again and pushed/brushed past her and left the classroom. He has a history of inappropriate physical contact (mostly hugs) so this is a big no-no. Another incident report emailed, I think this makes 7 or 8 for the school year? Way to go SS.
Then this morning, I hear FDH yelling at SS, which is the norm about 80% of our mornings. I do NOT participate in this morning nonsense, I retreat to our bedroom with my coffee. So I asked FDH what was up.......SS had (again) taken food and was trying to hide it. A package of cream cheese, a package of shredded cheese, and 2 pockets stuffed with crackers. He's done this several times, he's a hoarder. Mostly garbage. Every day we have to have him empty out his coat and pants pockets. Every day we have to go through his backpack to find whatever garbage and/or food he's stashed in there. The things I have found would curl your stomach. I'm the first one home usually, so I get stuck with this pleasant task. There was an older blog about someone's SD that was a hoarder. They mentioned that she kept all of those little plastic round things that you see in pizza delivery boxes because "she's crafty and these would make great crafts!" That is EXACTLY SS. He prefers leaves, sticks, stones, wrappers, and the cardboard roll from toilet paper.
And they lying is exhausting, but I just don't believe anything out of his mouth. Stupid lies like washing his hands, brushing his teeth, having homework, etc.
He is so embarassing. I avoid going in public with him as much as possible. Hell, I avoid contact with him altogether. I dread going to school activities for him or older SD cuz I can FEEL the whispers and HEAR the looks from teachers. Yes, I did that on purpose, haha. I want to buy a T-shirt that says "NOT my kid". It will go nicely with the one that says "Ask YOUR Dad"
I wish SS14 would get into just a LITTLE more serious trouble. LIke having a kid knock him down (no injuries) for stealing his stuff. Or having a police officer collect him from school and scare the crap out of him. But so far, nothing gets through to this kid. No positive reinforcement, no negative consequences, writing sentences, losing screens, corner timeouts, Rags' Extreme Chore Plan, nothing works. He feels no embarassment or shame in his behavior, he acts up in class in front of 30 other students and gets removed from class on a regular basis.....Nope, not embarrassed in the slighest. In desperation a couple of months ago, I told him I would give him $100 and we would go out and get WHATEVER toys he wanted if he could finish the rest of the week with no incident reports. Hell, he didn't even make it a day. But, when I wouldn't give him another chance, here come the tears and "you're not faaaaaaaaaiiiiiiirrrrrrrrr!" Of course, with his speech impediment, it comes out "you're not fayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyowwwwwwww"
So finals were this week and kids come home from school early. T minus 2 hours and this little brat will be home.
And FDH is NOT ditching me with SS, I'm not going to bail on FDH, FDH is not a lazy uninvolved parent, this is just me VENTING and VENTING and VENTING some more about a situation that totally sucks for everyone. Yep. I'm going to have a cocktail at 9am over this, cheers!