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School Schedule v5

Cover1W's picture

So YSD was with us Friday after school - today, Monday a.m.

DH picked her up on Friday (so she could not live the horror that is waiting an hour for the next bus/pickup from the library). She was talking at dinner last night with DH about her schedule this week...I had to pipe up, "Um, did you put this on the calendar? I need to have this on the calendar so I know what's going on." (I will drop her off at the bus stop on my way in / home so long as I don't waste time or make a double trip....the main stop in town is right on my route in/home and this is OK with me as long as I KNOW THE SCHEDULE).  YSD, "I know the schedule for September." Me, "Then put it on the calendar, I don't know it and will not memorize it."

Then this morning, of course, the bus doesn't show up. I've warned both YSD and DH that the public bus which used to be great is no longer reliable. So instead of waiting 5/10 min at the stop after the bus doesn't show and then coming home, she calls 15 min later, still waiting at the bottome of the hill, "The bus never came...." Me, "Then run back to the house, you're running out of time, just get back here." I then wake DH (he missed the call of course) to get YSD driven into the main transfer point. Because I'm NOT doing it, nope no way no how.

She's CRYING when she comes in, I tell her DH is getting dressed, 2 min later they are gone.

Fun times - my prediction = 100%

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Harry's picture

SD and DH problem in transportation is not your problem.  You should remind DH to keep his phone ringer up high enough not to miss SD calls in the AM

DPW's picture

Oh, Cover. You need to put a stop to this tonight or I'm worried you'll end up writing a blog titled "School Schedule v1,263,999"!

Cover1W's picture

I told DH last night, after we discussed the situation, that she was NOT to call either of us from the bus stop down the street but to come back to the house to get him if the bus doesn't show up by X-time. I will not be answering my phone moving forward she's old enough to get her rear end back here and take some responsibility for notifying him that she needs a ride (since she is insisting on this commute option and he is supporting it).

He's like, "Maybe she didn't know." I told him that NO, we discussed it several times before school started that if the bus doesn't show up by a certain time she needs to come back to the house. It was CLEAR. And not my problem that no one was listening to me. I will not be an emergency driver / arranger.

He said, "I'll talk with her about it.".

 

ESMOD's picture

Why is she not going home on Sunday night so that she could WALK to school in the AM?  Honestly, with the complicated commute like that for a teen? I would be avoiding it as much as possible.. even if it meant changing or reducing custody time during the school year.

Honestly, now that your DH has a car, he should be the one to be up and taking her to the transfer point.. ensuring that at least part of the difficult trip is past her.

I used to take the bus to work when I lived in NOVA.  And.. busses can be frustrating.. I remember one time I was IN the bus stop and the bus I was supposed to take (to the metro station).. just up and passed me by.  I called the metrobus up and complained about it.. that I was clearly at the stop and the driver just didn't stop.  The next day, the driver gave me some crap about calling.. and I was like.. well.. how did you know who called.. ?  obviously you knew it was me because you saw me and didn't stop!

So, I can see frustrations with this set up...

Cover1W's picture

I mentioned this return to BM on Sunday. It was ignored of course. Because he wants her here.

It'll be interesting to see what happens later this week.

Yeah, I was passed by our local bus like that too one. New driver not paying attention.

ESMOD's picture

You know.. my DH wanted his girls to be with us through the weekend too.. so he would get them up at 5 am on a monday... so that he could drive them to their school.. (or house to pick up supplies THEN school).  

If he wants her there.. then he needs to step up and make the delivery to school happen for her monday morning... and I mean drive her all the way there.  He has a car now.. he can make it happen.  It's ridiculous to put her on a multi leg multi hour journey to get to school.. she has to be tired and not ready to learn by the time she gets there.  

And think of all the bonding time he can have with her then????

Cover1W's picture

Diving will take even longer than her commute with transit. Without giving up my exact area you'll have to trust me on this one. Driving from where we live every day to her school and back is non-starter.