OSD and Texting
Last night DH told me that he had video conferenced with BM. Ok. He said that she could see him but he couldn't see her and all his settings were ok. I looked at him like, really? Oh. Maybe she had her camera off so you couldn't see HER? Jeez DH, she's not a good person! Of course I think OSD was right there with her.... anyway.
DH mentioned that he was texting OSD regularly, but never gets an answer, it's been a year of nothing from her. He asked what can we do about that. BM apparently said, well if she texts you back then you'll want to email, then call, then visit, then ask her to come to your home....wow. Like it's a bad thing. so a natural way to reconcile is totally out of the question.
Meanwhile note I say nothing but nod and an occasional "uh-huh."
Then he told me that he's going to see if the counselor (who OSD has refused to see.... because OSD has all the power granted by BM) can meet with OSD virtually. And then he launches into the facts that she's likely not to agree. And why doesn't BM use 'parenting' skills to help...like when she refuses to go she gets a trip to see her cousin instead, maybe you see your cousin if you go?
Ladies I bit my tongue hard here, it's what I, me, myself and I constantly tell DH not only about OSD (and did when she was younger) but also YSD. Find what is their currency and use it....but what do I sknow?
In the end it's still BM excusing and giving OSD the ok to treat DH like she does. I really think this may cause damage long term and think that even as she grows older she'll be this way.
But DH knows this. So long as I keep my mouth shut he'll learn.