I have moved on....
....to paper plates for myself.
No one is unloading the dishwasher. It's been clean for more than a day. I refuse to touch it.
YSD has NO school today. DH and her are planning on going for a bike ride later on. I am working my rear off at work, no time. DH can complain all he wants to about how busy he is around his deadlines, and when YSD isn't here I do the majority of the cooking/cleanup but I'm dammed if I'm going to do it when she's here and she's got free time and I don't. Esp. when DH makes free ttime to go do things with her.
Disengagement: Finding options that keep you out of what you know is going to start an argument, even if you are right.