I engaged darn it! I know better!
LOL - omg as it was coming out of my mouth I was like "nooooooooo don't sayyyyyy it...." But too late.
DH went to the store the other day, which is his responsiblity the week YSD is with us (which could be for one day or five...who knows!?). He'll ususally load up on stuff he and she like while getting very little to no regular items which I do on the other weeks and he pays part of since it's for everyone. So it works out.
ANYWAY - he got some special items that YSD particularly likes but never ever asks for. I don't buy special things because she cannot ask for anything at all, ever. She's 16 - if you want or need something you have to ask because I don't mind-read. So DH gets these things, some for himself too. YSD doesn't touch them that night. Gets her lunch together yesterday morning and DH drops her at bus. Last night DH goes to fridge to get some of what he bought. The ENTIRE unopened container is gone. DH asks me, "Did YSD take ALL of the stuff?" Me, "I have no idea, if it's not there then she took it all this morning." DH is not happy. Then I, to my chagrin say, "You know, she's been doing that lately...if you buy stuff for more than just her she shouldn't take ALL of it, especially if it's unopened, with her." WELL I am clearly the BAD PERSON nos because, "It's just the things, who cares? My daughters never ask me for anything so she can take what she wants, why is it a problem, you know?!" Okay EFF IT again. Not a word.
He then told me later that spring break is coming up and when she'd be at our place and some things she was going to have to do. I said, blankly, "Ok then." Zero help.
It never ends. Back to it.