Disengagement - Spreading the Good Word - update on Winona SD17 (Shoplifter)
She has no remorse. She tells her father, that she "didn't do anything". Right. she never does anything. Then tells her mother that she "did it for adrenalin." . Never mind that she was caught on security camera taking the make up and it somehow ended up in her purse. They couldn't quite nail her completely because she said she was "going to pay for it", had money in her wallet and hadn't yet left the store. So now, what about the repercussions? Its been 12 days (lets not forget this happened NEW YEARS DAY, after she and I had had a little "thing".)
Has the little brat been punished???
Well, yes and no. She hasn't been grounded per se, just no more trips to the store. She has had the door taken off her room at our home, so SO can see if she is cleaning, or has/not cleaned. She has argued and lied, but not really suffered repercussions such as no electronics...to be fair, there's not much you can take away from her - she has no job, no car, no boyfriend...so what do you take away? My solution would be to work her butt, require her to do volunteer work (much like community service), SOMETHING...
I printed and saved the Disengagement Manifesto, and in light of recent events - when last Friday SD17 went ballistic on BM's boyfriend and began punching him - & have been teaching this guy about Disengagement. He wants to read it, and I have been giving him examples of how I have disengaged. He is an optimist - he thinks it will get "better". I agree - temporarily it always gets "better", then reverts back to something worse. So there you are.
I don't think that it will get any better with SD17 Winona, honestly, she doesn't WANT to be any different, she thinks what she does(stealing/lying) is ok, and cool. She thinks its fun. Maybe one day she will wake up, stop playing the victim, and actually learn how to be respectful. BEFORE she goes to jail. However that is NOT my problem!
Disengagement feels so good!!!!! Free at last, free at last, almighty God, free at last.