SS13 is going to be a sex offender.  He is on the spectrum and makes impusive, bad choices. He is addicted to porn...like every time he gets his hands on a device he is not supposed to have he searches for inappropriate material.  His choice of porn is rape and I've also found pornhub videos of incest between step siblings, siblings, mom and step mom in his history.  THere was one that was 'walking in on your step sister masterbating and..."  I didn't watch to see what happens, lol.  I'm just waiting for something to happen.  BM has step daughters who are approx his age.  They all stay up late with no parental supervision and free reign of the house and the internet.  I can't worry about what happens at BM home. I do not allow SS around my family anymore as a precaution.  I avoid bringing him along but if we must I wouldn't allow him around the kids alone. 

As far as DHs family I don't feel like there is much I can do to protect the little ones.  DH has 4 brothers and sisters with kids younger than SS13. SS has not done anything to harm anyone.  Im being presumptuous so DH and family would never allow SS13 to be left out.  SS13 and SS11 had a sleepover with their cousins on Saturday night.  The girls are 12 and 10 and a 7yo boy.  I was nervous about SS13 going over there...even though it is not my problem, he lives with us and I worry about the girls who are my nieces. 

I'm not sure what happened but I think my sis in law is upset about something.  The plan was for the skids to stay there Sat nit and then the kids all coming here for a Sunday night sleepover because the parents both work today so I'm watching their kids.  DHs brother caught SS up at 3am.  As far as I know he was watching tv but he lied to his uncle and said he just woke up(always lying and sneaky).  Uncle T said, 'no you didn't I've heard you for hours'.  Uncle T finally told him to go to bed, their kids have strict bedtimes, they don't stay up all night playing games, watching youtube and searching for porn online.  Ss didn't get much sleep and Uncle T made mention of it to us when he brought the skids back so I made DH take SS outside to spread mulch.  Fuck that if he thinks he is laying his pathetic ass all over my couch all afternoon, he was made to do outdoor chores, only because I believe in consequences, DH would have let it go.

The cousins stayed here last night but their mom almost changed her mind about them coming.  She said she wanted a 930 bedtime so when Uncle T brought them, he told the kids bed at 930 so we put a movie on at 730 and then they all went to bed.  I think Ss13 being awake at 3am in her house bothered her but I'm wondering if there is more to it.  We had plans for the kids to stay her but she changed her mind but then Uncle T brought them and  his wife was mad at him but we don't know why.  They called and texted and face timed their kids several times last ngiht like they were worried.  I just wonder if there was more to the up at 3am story with SS.  Was he doing more than watching tv but Uncle T doesn't want to tattle on him?  I have told DH and BM about what I have found.  I have explained to Dh how dangerous it is for his son on the spectrum to be watching violent porn and searching for violent images.  Neither of them have listened to doctors or educators about their son, why would they listen to me?  All I can do is protect my nieces and nephews on my side of the family.  I can't protect DHs side of the family because I'm the wicked step mom who hates the kids!  I am only presuming that SS will act on his impulses by past patterns of his impulsive behavior.  Until something happens I will always be wrong, wrong, wrong but when it comes to these kids and predicting their patterns of behavior I am always right, right, right!