The bra post got me wondering
What things should a dad address with his teen daughter and what should he leave alone? One time when the skids were here for the summer DH took them to the public pool every day to keep them busy. He took me aside and told me that SD had not shaved her armpits or legs in a very long time and that she didn't trim her bikini line either. From what I understood she pretty much had pubes pouring out of all sides of her bikini bottom, and you could braid her armpit hair. I told Dh just tell her she needs to shave, so he did. Typical Sd didn't get it, she just shaved her legs. Didn't know what to do at that point so he just left it alone.
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Well I'm a total bitch. I
Well I'm a total bitch. I would not give a shit what BM "might" get upset about when it came to things that needed to be done.
Yeah, you might as well be a
Yeah, you might as well be a bitch about it. One time DH shoved the phone in my hands and told me to tell SD what a period was when she was like 11 or 12. I gave her a brief explanation and said if it happens tell your school nurse or mom. If it happens at our house tell us. Sd told her mother that I told her not to tell her mother about her period and to only tell us. Whatever Sd, I have nothing to say to you anymore.
^^See, stepdevil14 lied so
^^See, stepdevil14 lied so much to her mother about things I said (or didn't say) that I just simply quit talking to her!
I thought she would know
I thought she would know better, she was 14 then and he had told her to shave her armpits the summer before and she did a couple times. She has always been quite neglectful of grooming. She never styled her hair or wore makeup. She thinks she super hot stuff though. She even had the nerve to tell her mother that if she (BM) lost some weight maybe she could find a man.
Lol, I love the name
Lol, I love the name Chewbacca for her! Now I just need to figure out what to call SS.
Lol that's true.Oh god, my
Lol that's true.Oh god, my dad is so awkward. I would have died! He left all that to my mom, usually.
Just do it yourself!Please,
Just do it yourself!Please, quickly, this is not good.DH didn't say what needed to be said, so please tell her what was meant by shaving.eeewh.
Which magazine. I'm slightly
Which magazine. I'm slightly ashamed to say that I figured it out from Playboy.
Sue Johanson freaked me out.
Sue Johanson freaked me out. It was like watching my grandmother fondle dildos while explaining which parts stimulate which parts.
Uuughh...the thought still makes me shudder. LOL!
OP: My mom did have the sex talk with me, but as far as shaving etc, it was something I picked up on because it's what my friends were doing.
Oh, dear. If you don't feel
Oh, dear. If you don't feel comfortable, is there another adult female that could talk with her about it? Grandma, aunt, god-mother? Or maybe take a few pics of her at the pool and then give them to her "so she can post them on facebook." Which, being a teen means she probably never will when she sees how bad it really looks. And it also means she'll be more likely to take care of herself.
Ugh you know what this
Ugh you know what this reminds me of? Almost-son's girlfriend who lives with us doesn't roll up her pads or cover her tampons. I always know because DH will walk into the bathroom and you can hear him yell through the building "WHY IS THERE A DEAD MOUSE IN HERE?!?"
Dead mouse of course, being what our household calls used tampons.
And she gets blood on the toilet seat.
DH goes and tells Almost-son who goes and either cleans it up or tells his GF to do it. Pretty nasty but maybe she never learned? Or she knows but is too lazy.
A lot of people use that bathroom since it's the bathroom for the business as well and ain't nobody wants to see that shit.
Like someone else said, when
Like someone else said, when you are a divorced parent gender roles go out of the window, especially if the other parent are out of the picture like my bios' birth father.
Someone made a comment to DH about his eldest daughter should be starting her period in the next couple of years and asked him what she knew about it. He said he didn't know and that when the time came it was up to me and BM. I set him straight immediately and told him it was up to HIM and BM. Eldest SD is 10 and as far as I know neither he or BM have talked to her about her period or anything. He got upset when I said that and I told him that I didn't particularly enjoy explaining morning wood to my bio son when he asked, but I didn't have a choice and neither did he, and that he and BM could tell her or wait too long and let her get the info (which could be wrong) from her friends.
It was my feeling that at 14
It was my feeling that at 14 she knew better and just didn't care. If my DDs ever do something like that I will make them get out of the pool and get dressed, and they won't be taken swimming unless they groom themselves.