SS11 Went Home
BM and GF picked SS11 up yesterday afternoon. We had a really nice Easter morning with him. He helped us hide DD1's Easter eggs on Saturday night and then DH and I hid SS' eggs after he went to bed. Both kids loved their Easter baskets. We made a huge breakfast and then SS wanted to watch a movie. I got some really great pictures of the kids in their Easter outfits. DD had a cute little dress with bunnies on it and SS wore jeans and a nicer t-shirt. It wasn't my ideal outfit choice for SS11 but it was better than the grungy athletic wear he lives in.
When BM and GF picked SS up, pleasantries were exchanged, more so by GF than by BM. Overall, they were friendly. We gave SS hugs (he gave big hugs back). When they all left the front door, DD1 crawled over to the front door, waving out the side window. She started to cry so DH took her out to the porch to wave goodbye. SS rolled his window down and waved back.
We will see him in about 6 weeks and we will be taking him to Florida. We emailed BM the dates and flight details this week. She emailed back asking for the address of where we will be staying "in case of emergency". DH provided it. It is frustrating because BM never provides details of their vacations except for the general state they are going to and the dates, yet she expects dates, flight numbers, hotel addresses, etc. from us. Last summer, BM took SS to a desert state and they went hiking without water. SS told us they almost had to call for rescue due to extreme heat and dehydration. We had no idea where they were except for the state. If we ever call BM out on asking for too much information, which we have before, she just reminds DH that she has sole custody so technically, we are no different than any other relative traveling with him and she is entitled to that information. She also reminds us that she can prevent travel if she so chooses (which I'm not sure if she can). This is the stuff that I know is petty, but it irritates me because it feels controlling and intrusive. DH just provides the information she requests to prevent the abusive responses and fight, but it constantly feels like we are caving. DH reminds me that fighting her changes nothing, which is true. I am just sick of the double standards despite the fact that they are both SS' parents.