not sure if i should fight or walk away.
My partner and i split 3 weeks ago, he has said its because i deserve better than him because he cant love anyone.Which i know is not true as I wouldnt have stayed or fallen in love with him if he didnt have any love for me, he just says he only likes and cares for me. but he has begged me to stay friends with him,he texts and rings me often. I have been trying to be friends with him.
Last night whilst i was visiting him his daughter rang from another state and asked who was at his home, he said myself and his son, (his son lives with him). she then asked what was i doing there, he kept replying that i was just visiting and after saying this a couple of times, my ex hung up on his daughter. i asked him if i was causing trouble with his family by being there he said no. His daughter is shortly moving to this state and is going to be living with him, her mother has asked if she could move into his spare room to help their daughter, who is 17yrs old settle in for a few months, which my ex agreed to,(They have been separated for 12yrs so I know that there is nothing between them). I have known the family for 3 yrs and dated him for 6 months, his 19yr old son is upset about our separation and all my exs and my family and friends cant understand why he left me, as up until the day we separated we were both happy and planning a full future together, his family have said they have never seen him so happy with anyone until me.He hid our seperation from most until christmas, when i wasnt with him and he had to explain why not.
but after the phone call from his daughter last night i have realised that my ex and I have been drifting apart since his daughter started coming to stay and is now moving in, I have asked him if she has a problem with me, he said no.
I am best friends with his sister and she has now noticed that it seems to be his daughters doing, that we are separated also. I dont know if i should fight to keep my partner or if i should walk away?
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Walk. Just walk away and
Walk. Just walk away and don't let this sub-standard treatment define who you will become in the future. Live and learn.
He is obviously not telling
He is obviously not telling you the real reason he broke up with you so what does that tell you? You deserve better, he's right about that, but that is not the reason he left you.
I would not fight for somebody who doesn't think I am worth fighting for.
He doesn't want to build a
He doesn't want to build a life with someone he just likes.
Move on. You can't force someone to love you.
((((Hugs)))) Sorry to be so
((((Hugs))))
Sorry to be so blunt. He wants a booty call not a future.
There is an old saying. If a
There is an old saying. If a guy tells you he is an A-hole, then BELIEVE him!! This man, like so many others, wants to ride the backs of two horses (actually three when you include the mini-wife SD)
I don't think he's an ass at
I don't think he's an ass at all.
An ass would string her along while still playing house with the ex.
An ass would hang on to the relationship knowing damn well he doesn't love her and wants to be with someone else.
The guy is doing the right thing. He doesn't love her and knows she isn't the person he wants to be with. Instead of playing games, he's being honest with her.
He told her how he feels. If
He told her how he feels. If she takes let's be friends, to mean there's hope for a relationship, then that's on her.
Regardless of what he says, the fact that he's moving his ex into his home speaks volumes.
If she reponds to the texts/
If she reponds to the texts/ calls and is hoping for a relationship after he has told her he doesn't love her AND is moving his ex in. Then yeah, it is on her.
We are all responsible for the choices we make.
Actions speak louder than
Actions speak louder than words. Bottom line is he's not ready for a relationship with another person--he is still umbilically attached to miniwife and the hoo hoo from which miniwife came forth--not that there's anything wrong with that--he just shouldn't date, period.
The poster is deluding herself into thinking that he will "change" and put all that aside for her.
Go Sweetie! Find someone who
Go Sweetie! Find someone who will make you their priority. Life will be wonderful.
Just wanted to Thank everyone
Just wanted to Thank everyone for their comments. I have just returned from the post office where I posted a letter to my ex. It was a five page letter telling him how hurt I am about what he has done to me and that I no longer will be contacting him.