New Boundary in Regards to BM
My FH has taken a lot of crap from BM. Last night I think it was at its worst - funny how she does that when he is out of town on work detail. So he says to me, I'm just not going to talk to you about her. We shouldn't talk about it.
1. I do feel that open communication will keep our relationship healthier - whether its about BM's *hit or not.
2. I want to feel as though my opinion, thoughts, and feelings matter, and if he isn't sharing, then he won't know.
3. I don't want him to feel like the whole weight of all of this is on his shoulders.
So my response was this:
If you decide to not talk to me when you are upset or bothered by something BM has said or done and I see it on your face, feel it in the air, or I ask you whats wrong and you don't share, then I am walking away - taking the dogs for a walk, going in a different room (we have 2 living rooms w/TVs), or going to soak in a bubble bath, but I am walking away from you. If you don't want to share and consider this OUR problem, only YOURS, then I won't be around until your mood doesn't affect my mood.
Is this a good boundary to set? I am a fixer - I want to make my FH feel better, and I want him to value my opinion -- and when he's preoccupied with her *hit, it definitely shows in everything he does.