my husband and i have been together for over 5 years (he's been divorced for 6+) i have a SD12 whom I have always gotten along with until recently. See we are only supposed to have her tues night and every other weekend. well it has gone from that to having her everyday (thats not a problem by any means, she is better off at our house) so my husband decides to take his ex back to court to reduce child support (seeing how she is with us everyday and we have to foot the bill 100% for all sports and school activities) well BM gets pissed (shes a dead beat mom who hates that we are happy and that SD would rather be at our house) So since she found out we are taking her back to court she has started telling SD lies about me to the point where she wants nothign to do with me. The main lies are that I broke up her marriage to my husband, and that I am now cheating on him. For one, I am not doing/done either, two, you dont tell a 12 year kid that, and 3 i have told my husband for years that she wants him back, which she denies, well if you dont then why try to break us up. I am sorry i have respect for myself and others, and that i got an education, guess she hates that the child is better off at our house and happier and that I am the better mother figure for her. So my husband doesnt believe any of it but and told SD that it wasn't true to which she replied if it wasn't true why would my mom tell me that stuff? So he doesnt want to say anything to upset SD, but it is causing alot of arugements in the house due to SD attitude towards me. I have tried everyting to make her happy, but am at the point where I dont care and if she hates me for lies then so be it. I have asked my husband to try to explain stuff to here, but she is only 12 and if he mentions anything the least bit negative about her BM she cries and accuses him of hating her (which he does but cant tell her that) soon as we get stuff better and new lie surfaces to make her unahppy at our house and keep the hate fresh. However even as much as BM want SD to hate being at our house, when it is her time with her, she dumps her off at a friends house, or has us keep her so she can visit her BF in jail. Suggestions on making peace in the house???????????