ok my DH and I have been together for 3 years and married for 2. I have a 4 yr old daughter. He has two son's 6 and 7 1/2. No kids together...but I am trying to convince him now is the time. DH has custody of the boys. EX has EOW visitations and some holidays. When they divorced she wanted the car and house and he wanted the kids, so he got them. DH and EX where divorced for 2 yrs when I met him. Up until then his EX kept quiet and saw them the bare minimum. I came into the picture and bascially took over as their mother. I have done everything for them from head to toe for the past 3 years. She of course has hated that fact ever since. Now she is 32 and is now on her 5th husband! She is 8 grand in back CS and has never paid a dime on their medical bills. She does best (and she is really really good at it) to lie, cheat, manipulate, and sly her way through every situation that comes her way. She treats skids 7 1/2 and 6 like babies. She lies to them all the time. She quits jobs like crazy. Lets see in 07 we know of 10 jobs she had..that WE know of..could be more. We have been in and out of court 6 times in the past 3 yrs. because she doesn't do what she is suppose to do. But she slips through the system and nothing is ever done to her but a slap on the wrist.

Ok so we have to certify everything to her to make sure we cover out backs and have a nice paper trail for any court hearings. When we moved 6 months ago for a better job and 4 hours away from her she never protested the move. We gave her a suggestion of new visitation and thats what we have all went by for 6 months without problems. Now Christmas came. She never attempted to talk to DH about plans. She never even mentioned wanting to see them until a couple days before Christmas. All she did was send him a text wanting to make plans, he told her to call and talk to him and she never did. Likely to say she never contacted him again so he gave her what he could. The plans where getting them Christmas evening and bringing them back the next day at 3. That was the time we where leaving back to GA. She never asked for anymore and said she would have them back at 3. So noon the next day comes and she texts saying she will not allow him to take her time away and would not bring them back until Jan 2nd!!! All the sudden she decided she wants to follow the orignal paperwork for AL visitation. So after a not so nice meeting with her to give her SS medicine and a run in with the cops to help solve the problem DH decided to let her keep the visit. Now he is making sure to make every single future visit a not so easy process. She of course lied to the boys and told them DH decided to let them stay. She didn't mention how she lied to us and forcefully kept them. I just hope one day they can see through her lies and can make a fair judgement for themselves at the type of person she really is.