Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  A cliche, I know. But true.

Awesome, awesome, awesome!

I'm so happy and proud for you!

https://markmanson.net/love  Here is why we all use the phrase Love is not Enough!  Read this.  It's sooo good.  It was life changing for me when I read this guy's essay.  You'll see.  You made the best decision. 

Congratulations! Ever forward.

i hope your future is filled with many more blessings and amazing opportunities!

Congratulations on this incredible opportunity.   Your XF missed a key opportunity. If he loved you, he would be on a plane to NYC to make a life with you.  Visitation is a thing and he could either bring his son with him or have regular visitation with him.

Do not sacrifice your life for him.  Both equity life partners need to both invest and commit.

Enjoy your life and your new adventure in NYC.  Welcome to the USA.

Beyond thrilled for you and sooOOOo proud of you!

Also, remembering your story, RELIEVED for you. 

Well done Ms. Anonusa! 

This is truly The First day of the rest of your life.  Only good thing are going to be happing to you.  Make sure you send cards to the Ex. Wish you were here alone 

Congratulations on your new job!  I didn't see your first blog post, but went and read it, and honestly I think you have dodged a massive bullet by doing what you are doing.   Raising any child is challenging, raising an autistic one, who is not your biological child, would be more than most people would be able or willing to do.  Autism can be incredibly challenging as I'm sure you're aware.  I bet too, your fiance might have been only too happy to see you take on the lion's share of the work. 

And if he loved you, he wouldn't hold you back from your dream of living in NYC.

Congrats. You dodged a bullet.

So very happy things worked out for you!

Wow!  That's fantastic news.  Unfortunately, taking on a situation like you would have with your (ex?) BF.. is not something easily accepted.. and it might not be right for everyone.  He may well have had good qualities.. and I'm sure you had good times with him but sometimes there is just too much in the negative column to make it work.

That job sounds amazing and you would regret not taking that decision.  If he was truly equally vested in you.. he would have looked for ways HE could make it work.

Yay!! I just want to say that unless you have friends or family there, or even a pet, NYC can be a lonely place in the beginning  IMO. You may start missing him and wondering if you made the right decision. I would encourage you to block him and remove him from all social media to help you through this transition. Because he will contact you or post manipulating things intended to pull at your heart strings. Just remember you dodged 4 bullets that were aiming straight at you. You would end up with a miserable life. Now you can meet someone without kids in NYC. It was funny to me when I lived there, most of the men and women were childless in NYC in my age group and beyond. But in my hometown, the men/women in my age group had multiple kids sometimes with multiple partners. 

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

What a wonderful feeling to go after your dreams and making them come true!!! Live your best life darlin' because there so much of it waiting for you. You took control and believed in yourself and achieved all that you wanted and deserved.

Many blessings to you!

Fantastic news! 

Whenever somebody says “but if you loved me you would...” all I hear is “I am manipulating you so that you do what I want.” Let me tell you that if he loved YOU he would be proud of your success and help figure out how the relationship will still work. 

Stay strong. 

Best news ever. Congratulations and remember you have your whole life ahead of you. Be great. Be brave be proud of putting your needs first. His response shows that it's ok for him to be selfish but you must not. Smh.  Congratulations again. 

I think your new handle should be "Sliding Doors", after that awesome movie with Gyneth Paltrow, and John Hanna. About alternate storylines that derive from a simple sliding door of a train. In this case you made an informed decision rather than experienced a random twist of fate that happens unknowingly. Applaus!!!!

Many of us here, especially those here a long time, often wonder what our lives would have been like if we had not made our choices to stay with the person. Some make a decision to leave, and begin actually living that "alternate" life (Futuro Im thinking of you!).

Im so happy for you! AFter reading your previous post, I am cheering actually!!!! Yay you!

I think you should try to watch this movie, and read this board if you EVER start having regrets, or what ifs, or start to want to go back to this dude.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120148/

Good luck!