Always Annoyed with Step daughter
This is my first post. I have been with my DH for 13 years so my step daughter was not even 2 when we got together and we always got along just fine. I was always annoyed dealing with her mother but everything was okay until she got older. Then I had my own kids and I literally hate her coming to our house. She is always in trouble, always failing classes and getting caught smoking pot and whatever else. Whenever she us here the entire atmosphere changes and everyone is walking on eggshells.. Her mother tried to get her to live with us because she is always nasty and in trouble. but my husband will not let me disapline her which makes everything impossible. So I put my foot down and said no. I do not want her as a role model with my girls either nor do I care to be disrespected on the daily and I can do nothing about it without it becoming a fight. I feel bad that I hate her being around but I don't think it is possible to change it.