OT - when you lose someone dear to you
A dear friend of mine recently lost her SO. Sadly, their time together was much too short. Full of love and hopes and dreams, but too damn short. Her heart is broken and my heart aches for her.
Her SO had health issues. Many would have called him a broken man. IMHO, so many of us are broken or have been broken in some way. Most of the time, we are able to patch or shore up the cracks and keep going. Sadly, her SO could not.
As a tribute to him, she will have a sponsorship at an animal sanctuary in his name. A place where broken animals need extra care. I think this is a beautiful gesture to her love. Broken animals, like broken people, need and deserve love and care.
STalkers, when you lose someone dear to you, is there anything you do to memorialize or honor them? For example, when my mother passed, I made a contribution to Alzheimer's research (still do) and named a star after her. I know it in no way makes up for the loss, but it was my way of honoring her.
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Such a tragedy when something
Such a tragedy when something like this happens.
I don't really have any rituals, but I tend the grave of my very first boyfriend. He was in a terrible car crash back in 1995 and died about three months after the accident at the age of 32.
I had just delivered the Things and no one in my family wanted to tell me about the accident while I was pregnant, so I didn't know about the accident until Tim died. The funeral was just so sad...
We had remained friends after our break up and I was a guest at his wedding back in 1986. He was living in the same town as my family and remained close to my mom. He was a local politician, and so it was easy for me to keep up with him while I was living out of state. Once I came back to Michigan, we fell back into our friendship very easily.
When he died, his children were 4 and 11 months. His wife quickly remarried, and Tim's mom died about two years after that. I went to visit with her and she asked me take over her job as the gravetender. It seemed that Tims' wife and kids had stopped visiting it. I told her I would be happy to take care of it.
Now, four times a year, I drive to my hometown and tend his grave, and his mom's and aunt's. I pull weeds, plant, and in the summer I take a blanket, a book and my sonos speaker and blast Gordon Lightfoot (Tim's fave, don't judge) while I tend the graves and read a little bit.
That's wonderful, WOB!! A
That's wonderful, WOB!! A friend of mine passed away in an accident when he was 21. He was an only child born to older parents. His parents are still living, but in frail health. I still tend to his grave after all these years (32).
My Dad
I buy and deliver Christmas present, soft US flag blankets, socks and personal hygiene items to hospice patients at VA hospital. I attach a card to each item saying in loving memory of xxxxxx US Marine Korea War Veteran . I call the nurses station to ask for a head count, man or woman, branch of service and if any particular things are needed. The need is great .
How wonderful that you make
How wonderful that you make sure no one at the hospital is left out!! My husband is a Marine (no longer active duty) and we donate/do things annually for a variety of military charities.
My son in law died two years
My son in law died two years ago, very tragic death. We donate money to the cause (of which he died), hopefully helping others to get help before it’s too late.
Sometimes Hope is all we have
Sometimes Hope is all we have. My Mom had Alzheimers, which is a terrible disease. One of my brothers and his family participate in a Walk every year, raising donations for research.
Bless you
For your kind contributions to the cause. Very nice way to remember your SIL in service of others.
A close girlfriend of mine
A close girlfriend of mine was recently murdered by a trusted friend of hers. Every year we (a big group of her friends) hold a get together and donate door prizes. The money is split between Animal Aid and St. Judes which were her two favorite charities. Her birthday we donate money to the police department that handled the case and put her murderer behind bars.
Classy, how awful!! I'm so
Classy, how awful!! I'm so glad that POS is locked up. What you do in her honor is lovely.