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Andyandme's picture

Finally seeing a therapist tomorrow.. I just want to be happy again, but there is no way Mo how . I can't put up with SO and his relationship with his daughter. I'm tired of all the arguments and the name calling for example I'm jealous, I have dad issues and what do I have against his daughter ?? I'm sick in the head. We'll I call it what it is. Sd6 gets treated better then I do, he panics when he's late picking her up even by one minute he doesn't want to let his little princess down EVER...
He can't even tell her stay out of the bathroom while using the toilet or showering because she might get her feelings hurt. I'm sick of it. Sunday morning the only day everyone sleeps in except her and what does she like to do jump in our bed and cuddle with daddy. They both need kisses every ten to fifteen minutes. He tells bm yes every time she needs him to watch her when it's her days he never asks me if I'm ok with it he just tells her yes. Bm has him wrapped around her fingers. I'm over it I need help to find out if I'm really loosing my mind or if it's time to get out. He's a very attentive man when his kid isn't around and I love that person, going on 4 years and still no ring that's another issues of mine. Sigh feeling depressed.

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Andyandme's picture

Somehow I believe it gets better the older they get, who am I kidding. Thanks Mariejeanne!

Andyandme's picture

He use to talk about marriage before we moved in, I was of coarse in no hurry then. We'll now I am, he introduces me as his wife but I look at him like yeah right , I tell him I don't have a ring and we're not married so please don't call me your wife and he replies with yes you are. So I don't want to beg or pressure him because I would never want to pressure anyone into marrying me. I get asked all the time when is he gonna pop the question, I'm seriously questioning it. I bring it up in our conversations and he will say like I will soon babe when u least expect it. One night he called me his wife and his little princess laughed don't see why but I noticed she did. So to answer your question goodtimes yes he talks about it only when I bring it up.

noidea1010's picture

Oh, oh! I know this one! " he introduces me as his wife but I look at him like yeah right , I tell him I don't have a ring and we're not married so please don't call me your wife and he replies with yes you are" Not the exact thing, but close. It was more like "my ex-wife" when she really wasn't. Somehow guys think that what's in their head is reality!

Sorry Baby, the world does not run off what you consider in your head as true. She is only your ex if you have divorce papers. You are only his wife if there is a marriage certificate.

4 years...no ring...I call BS. Actions speak louder then words. And if he isn't putting boundaries in place now, it's SO much harder when SD is 12.

Justme54's picture

It does not get better. Trust me! I remarried after almost 21 years. I married a man with 3 adult children. He was the co-signer of the 2 oldest kids cars at age 28 and 33. OMG! The youngest at age 21 was living with BM. When they have no boundaries, kids lack independence as adults. It only means one thing...you better hold onto your wallet.

Andyandme's picture

To top it off both parents are teaching her to love the best and only the best, SO shops only at Abercrombie and nordstroms oh and Bloomingdales for her. What princess wants princess gets. Did I mention not to long ago she was begging SO to shower with her... When he told her she's to big and none of her friends shower with their daddy's well she wasn't to happy she pouted and said that's not fair.

Onewillfullstepmom's picture

If you haven't already, read Stepmonster, immediately and then make him read it. If that doesn't work, make him see that he needs to make you a priority too.