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Apparently SD18 is getting married this weekend

AllySkoo's picture

Jesus H Roosevelt Christ am I tired of this shit.

I got a call from SD23 last night, telling me she has "bad news". The short version is the SD18 had yet another fight with her mother, and now is not having an actual wedding. She and her BF are instead getting married at the courthouse this weekend with NONE of SD's family there. (NO idea if his family will be there. Probably, is my guess.) SD23 leaves it to me to tell DH. Wonderful.

DH calls SD18. SD18 says BM is trying to "control" her wedding and so to thwart BM they're just going to get married this weekend with no one there. Whatever. I think this is all on the boyfriend, honestly. The fight that BM and SD had was apparently because the boyfriend said he wanted to have a bachelor party at the beach house BM was going to rent, and so BM and the other SD's (and kids) would have to clear out. He orchestrated this fight, he did it on purpose, and now he's getting what he wants - SD isolated. Because boyfriend is a fucking abuser (for those not familiar with this story) and abusers isolate their victims. *sigh* I TRIED to tell SD23 this, and that she should NOT cut SD18 out of her life, but I think it fell on deaf ears. Abusive asshole boyfriend is winning. Fuck.

Meanwhile, BM is posting all sorts of vaguebook nonsense like "It's time I took care of ME and cut people out of my life who obviously don't want me around." *MAJOR EYE ROLL* (And yeah, she went on in the follow up posts to call out SD18 in particular and "she made her bed" and yada yada yada.) SO FUCKING MATURE, BM.

I am so tired. Tired of BM and the other two SDs acting like they're so hard done by. Tired of worrying about SD18. Tired of fighting to stay in her life, of fighting NOT to react to the bullshit boyfriend pulls in an effort to start fights. I'm just... tired.

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just_tired's picture

May I ask why SD18 is getting married, seems really young. I personally could never support anyone getting married at a young age. Every single person I know that married that young didn't make it and their marriage ended.

AllySkoo's picture

*sigh* She just had his baby (yes, she was pregnant at 17, gave birth about 2 months after her 18th birthday - she's still a senior in high school for fuck's sake) and she's in luuuuuuuuuurve. :sick:

AllySkoo's picture

Truer words, Ripley, truer words. And I am TRYING to be there for her, as is DH. We both know that eventually she's going to need someone to help get her out, and we're determined not to let the boyfriend run us off completely. *sigh* It's just hard today.