My Skids are back today..to my annoyance. The SS6, has no respect for me what-so-ever. As much as I try to be nice and fair, it never helps. I have been a part of his life since he was 1. However, every year it gets worse and worse. He tells me I'm an idiot, calls me names, and today after we sat down for dinner, he looks at me and makes his eyes slanty and looks at me and laughs. Yes, I'm Asian, but my eyes are bigger than his are. I'm sure he learns all this from his skanky BM.

BM went to DH newphew's wedding this past Saturday. We didn't attend because we knew that she was invited. DH called newphew, told him we will not be attending because "she" will be there. Newphew say's "we only invited her because of the kids, but you should come anyway, if she starts anything we will kick her out" DH "no I don't want to ruin your wedding cause I know it will be uncomfortable for everyone next time if you want me to attend a family gathering don't invite her.

I sent my older half brother I haven't spoken to in 10yrs a letter last week and I got an answer back today and then we talked on the phone for two hours. It felt nice. He is so happy now and except for some obvious things so am I, honestly it was nice just to talk to someone and know you had a connection with them. I lost so much family when I left my dad, we just didn't leave him we stopped talking to that whole side of the family to protect ourselves from him. It felt nice to reclaim something back to have a big brother agian. We talked so easy and it wasn't even wierd at all.

OK so as some of you have read, we have the skids every weekend through the end of this month. Last weekend, my BS9 went to stay with his grandma... DH and I were texting the details of BS9's departure time and I said, "Would be nice if maybe skids could stay the night with your mom and we could have a quiet weekend (with the baby, of course) to which he agreed, except that he offered to take the skids home EARLY Saturday morning, rather than let them stay at his mom's all night... that way he could see them for a little while. Great! Sounds wonderful!!

I'm so glad I found this site...I've been so stressed and upset for a long time. My heart goes out to all the step-parents of more than one skid. I have a SD11, who lives with us full-time, she always has. I've been her "mom" for over 4 years. SD only has phone contact with her BM, although she lives 5 miles away, and has no physical visitation-this tells you what kind of person BM is-it's been this way for a long time.

I hate BM soooooooooo much. I never fought with SO until she moved here. The only thing we really ever fight about is her. Her manipulative controlling behavior that SO just can't seem to see.

Well, this wknd my son turned 12 Bf and I decided to host our first low country boil and it was MARVELOUS!!! I worked hard for a couple days cleanign house, the yard, the sunroom was spotless -where I set up the tables...the lighting was perfect...looked great.

Why do I care if he showers?
Why do I care if he brushes his teeth?
Why do I care if he fails school?
Why do I care if he lies?
Why do I care that he leaves his dishes throughout the house?
Why do I care that if we have sodas he will drink them until their gone?
Why do I care that he treats our home like its disneyland?
Why do I care if he manipulates DH?
Why do I care if he never wants to go to BM's almost like its total punishment?
Why do I care that we have to repeat everything 5 times before SS will hear any of it?

}:) All the posts I'm seeing are starting to get me sad and upset - so who wants to have some fun?

If you could have 1 day of saying whatever you wanted to your spouse, inlaws, Skids, Bios, anyone - without consequences or fights - what would you say?

I've posted a few times here -- I have 4 skids and one BD17. My skids are SD16, SS18, SS21 and SD22. The boys are much easier than the girls (skid-wise). The girls seem to have their BM's makeup and are behaving like her more and more each day --ie crazy. The youngest one SD16 just began acting more and more like her recently, and it makes me very sad. Up until this point, while our relationship wasn't always easy, it was manageable and we were able to have fun once in a while.