I feel like every day that goes by is the more I resent my whole situation. My step daughter gets brattier by the day (turns 9 in 3 weeks) and I'm finding it harder and harder to deal with her. Just her being here changes my whole mood. Her whiny voice calling for her Daddy drives me insane. She thinks she can boss us around and she has such an attitude. I can't imagine acting this way when I was 9. She thinks she is an adult and can make the same decisions we do or tell me how to do things. My husband gets annoyed with her antics too, but he lets her get away with things too easily. He threatens punishment and at least half of those times he goes back on it. It is definitely not consistent between our house, her Moms (what a joke that is, whole other blog post...), and my in-laws homes. This kid is plain spoiled. Everyone thinks they need to feel bad for her and give her everything she wants but they don't realize they are creating a monster. It scares me lately because I am seeing more and more the bad qualities my husband has inherited from his parents...the know-it-all mentality from his dad, and the OCD control freak thing from his Mom. And now I see my stepdaughter with some of these same qualities only in a 9 year old pre-hormone little girl form who is frankly driving me to want to drink. My husband noticed today and he hasnt said this to me in years "Why did you instantly get in a bad mood when SD got here?" Maybe because she WHINED her way through the front door and HASN'T STOPPED since she has been here? And She will never just play by herself. She always has to be in the living room playing video games and my husband is the designated playmate for 80% of the waking day when she is here which is about 75% of the time as my husband has primary custody. And while he is playing with her she yealls at him about how he is playing the game or getting mad when he beats her at it. She is standoffish with me in a way she wont give me a hug goodnight or say hello or goodbye to me. It makes me feel awkward and I have decided I am not going to chase after this kid anymore. Ive been in her life since she was 2. I dont need to be treated like a stranger in my own home. I gave up. But she is all over her daddy you better believe it...she still calls him in the bathroom while she is sitting on the toilet or showering and it just plain bothers me. She lays on top of him on the couch. I really hope those behaviors stop soon. I feel like she is too old for some of this. Everything is just piling up lately in how I feel about this entire situation. And like I said the BM is a joke and is so hard to deal with. It's like a living hell sometimes and I feel like my husband should treat me like a princess for putting up with this crap..but he doesn't!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It makes me wonder if I even want this life anymore. It is heart breaking to think about ripping our lives apart but I am just not happy anymore most of the time. And when SD is here I swear I go into a depressive funk almost every day I see her now. Help? Suggestions?!!