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So proud of a friend of mine.

purpledaisies's picture

She gave custody to her baby daddy. She knew she didn;t have a stable home and was really torn and struggled with this for a long time before she finally signed. She had NO family and I helped when I could but she needed more than that. She didn;t have a job so to speak.

Her baby daddy has a house and is remarried and has another child with new wife, she also knows that new wife can be home for her and can be in one school instead of moving. Her dd is only 4 and when she finally signed she called me. She was very upset but she knew she was doing the right thing by her child.

I told her I as so proud is her for recognizing the fact that she is bettering her childs life instead just trying to make baby daddys life hell. i told her that she was indeed being a very selfless in making sure her child is in a better place then she can provide.

She told me that baby daddy has always been a good dad and wants no trouble with him or new wife. But I do know that she doesn;t like to talk to new wife just to baby daddy. I was with her one day when they were talking baby daddy and her and the new wife butted in on another line. funny thing was that friend wasn't being a bitch or anything just setting up a time for her to come get her dd for a while and that was all they were talking about.

But yes i am proud of b/c her life style is not that stable for a kid and she knows it and she did what is in the best interests of her child which is the bottom line.

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DASKRA's picture

I wish more mothers would be as selfless as she was. It's something all parents should consider. What is best for thier child.

purpledaisies's picture

Frustrated I get what you are saying but she never had a good mom to teach her anything and never got that strength to bare it all to do what she should do. She is lost right now with no family (all dead) and like I said was never taught how to be a good person or a good parent. She truly doesn't know how. She tried and she is depressed b/c she feels she failed.

So instead of dragging her kid down with her she gave her to her dad so that she can get better and be a better person and parent.

I would die for my kids too. But ya know she that is what she is doing in a sense. And the baby daddy will let her see her when she wants.

I am proud of her b/c I have known her for almost 2 years now and this is what needed to happen.

purpledaisies's picture

That is what she is doing hence she gave the kid to the dad. She is trying her best. At least she knows that the kid better with dad.

And yes she will get visitation

purpledaisies's picture

I'm not saying nor have i said that her choices are right in the fact that she hasn't stepped up but she does need help.

She did the first step in putting her kid in a better home so that she can focus on getting better.