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AmIWicked's picture

Last night DH was holding me so tight when I came back to be from going to the bathroom.
He said, please don't leave me, don't go, I love you...
Over and over. He talks in his sleep a lot, but hasn't a long time.
I let him hold me. I tenderly caressed him and answered back, I love you too, im not going anywhere, he held me tighter got aroused half woke up and rolled away from me.
I didn't think anything of it. Went back to sleep.
This morning he tells me.
"I had the strangest dream last night about BM. It was horrible. She was leaving me all over again and this time she took the kids and I I couldn't see them or nothing and had no idea where they were. It wasbad.

Now this pissed me off...with what he was saying in his sleep, with how tightly ue was holding me while he was saying it... can I hate the man for his dream? Because im holding a grudge....

SweetMom's picture

You can't hold him accountable over a dream. When I dream I remember sometimes and sometimes I don't. Dreams drift from several aspects of waking life so he may have had a hard on of you and when he turned he may have drifted to another dream. Happens to me all the time but, I don't have a penis to get a hard on bahahaha!!! J/k

Redredwine's picture

He may have been holding the kids and saying those things to them in his dream.

I have very weird dreams. Of my dating dreams, my favorite is that I was dating Matthew McConoughey (not my favorite actor but he showed up in the dream) but to keep it secret so the paparazzi didn't know, we walked around holding hands inside a paper bag.

IslandGal's picture

Holy shit!!! Ok. How good are you at acting? Next time youse are in bed..start muttering..whimpering..if he continues sleeping..get louder..hell..nudge him in the groin if you have to..(to make sure he's awake) and then..make oud sighing noises..whimper and giggle...make him think you're having a naughty dream..then softly sigh your exes name...maybe even grind a little..leave no doubt WHATSOEVER about what you are dreaming about..or whom.

If he brings it up the next day.. just look confused and say.."oh man..I thought I was having a nightmare 'cos I was dreaming of my ex.."... and then see how he reacts. If he gets all huffy and pissed off..tell him that's how you felt about his dreaming of his ex. I would've let him get away with it if it seemed he was dreamng about the kids.. but him getting aroused? uh uh..definitely not about the kids.

Justme54's picture

I do not see the dream as it is about his ex. It is about his ex actions...taking his kids away and not knowing where they are.

He may have thoughts of you living due to BM drama with his kids. I am just guessing. I am sure most men are smart enough to know...children with a toxic ex who is the mother of his children does NOT make them a great catch even if they are rich with a big dick. LOL! However, they will never admit it.

AmIWicked's picture

I told him I felt weird about it and he said there was not an ounce or shred left of love in his heart for her.
He wouldn't have shared the dream with me had he been trying to hide feelings for her.
He is still really shaken up about it, still feels fortunate that when she left for real she didn't care enough to take the kids she just wanted out.
But now she knows that the quickest way to ruin DH's day (or mine now for thqt matter) is to do something to screw with the lives or futures of the kids, so DH said it's been at the front of his mind recently that she just wants to screw with the kids to hurt him.
Also, our wedding anniversary was just a few days ago. FYI

SugarSpice's picture

dreams are products of the subconscious mine. your dh is haunted by his relationship when married to the ex, or he still feels something for her.

in my case the ex ditch the man while he went crawling after her as she took the kids. he groveled in front of her while she laughed and went to marry her lover, who was leaving his wife for her. (for the record, after twenty years of marriage, the second husband left her for another woman. karma is a b@tch.)

my ex would probably still be with his first wife if she was not such a tramp. she was his high school sweetheart.