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young_stepmomma25's picture

Okay so my SD is 14 turning 15 and a pain to be around at times because she's in the "entitled teenager" phase. My fiance is such a pushover with her it's a bit sickening. She has him wrapped around her finger but that's a whole other chapter.
Recently, her dad has been constantly trying to get her and I to go places alone (shopping and whatever) and it feels like he's always trying to push her upon me. I mean, had she been a sweet respectable girl, I would've been obligated to take her places but she's the complete opposite! I told him I wanted to go and get my hair done and he tells me "Hey, why not take (SD14) with you?" So I politely say maybe next time, I want time alone (I have 3 month twin boys also so I wanted some me time) & he gets offended. Every time I want to go out alone he insists on her going with me. Does anyone else have a spouse that does that?

young_stepmomma25's picture

Well at least I'm alone. I thought I was a stepmonster for not wanting to have a 14 yr old shadow in toe just because daddy wants us to have mommy & daughter time *gag* . He doesn't realize, her behavior turns me off and makes me not want to be around her often.

fedupstep's picture

My dh does this...tries to force a relationship that just isn't there. He doesn't know how to deal with her so he pushes her on me. When i refuse i get accused of 'not wanting family time'. It's a cop out and lazy parenting.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

Same here! DH doesn't understand that outside of this marriage, I do not hang out with people who are entitled and self-absorbed!

Yet he thinks SD19 and I should "do things." :sick:

Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned's picture

My usual policy is to alternate. Yes this time, but no next time, etc.

katielee's picture

My DH used to do this but I told him point blank that since my SD13 is so disrespectful and pouty that I do not enjoy her company and won't be taking her with me anymore. I also told him I will no longer be teaching her to cook (he used to send her inside to cook dinner with me every night, too.) He finally gave up.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

For the longest time, I made an effort with SD19, when she was in HS. I would be the one at the dinner table, listening to her run her mouth since DH and YSD had slipped off to another part of the house. I used to invite her paces.

Then she turned into super bitch two years ago when we got the SDs full-time. I certainly did NOT want to hang with her. DH doesn't parent her, BM is dead and she has issues over that, and she is disrespectful.

NOT HAPPENING!

~ Moon

canigetabm's picture

This made me gag just reading it. Yes SO does this and I hate it, if you don't want to hang out with SB15stb16 (super bitch) what makes you think I want to....no thanks.

intrinsicmemory's picture

My DH does this to me. It's like he has no idea how to handle having a daughter. I've stopped wanting to do anything with her because she doesn't listen. At all. Like he insists she comes in the kitchen and I try to be patient and walk her through simple cooking things, and I turn around for 3 seconds, and by the time I turn back around, she's completely screwed something up to the point of having to throw it away. Things that she's done with me at least a dozen times, and should have down.

So I stopped. I've made HIM go into the kitchen if he wants her to cook something, and his adult ADD gets to him, and he walks away with his nose in his cell phone, or goes to move a load of laundry, and she screws everything up... and then I have to go in and cook dinner/breakfast.

MelissaAllbright27's picture

Ugh, this sounds so annoying! It's still early days for me and my partner, so I've only met two of his daughters (he's got 4, no sons). His daughters are 12, 10, 5 and 2. I've met the 5 year old and 2 year old. I am happy to babysit them, as they are very well behaved children. Also, their mother is actually a friend of mine, so I babysit when her and my partner both have work commitments or need a break.
However, I reckon what's happening to you will happen to me once I meet the other two. They have a different mother, who is really not nice (putting it mildly) and is still bitter about her and my partner splitting up, although it was nine years ago and all her fault (she had an affair). She poisoned her children against my partner's previous girlfriend and am certain she will do the same to me. DP is desperate for us to get on, so we will probably be forced to go on days out together. Yay! (I think not).