sd demanding assests at 11
My sd11 is obsessed with my h house he has. Right now we are living in my home I have had for 16 years. My h refers to it as his home. The other house is dead weight. We both want to sale and get us a house of our own together. Sd 11 always taking pictures of h old house everytime we go there and goes down memory lane. I went over there and painted all the rooms because the Realtor told us to invest a little money and it will sale. Sd 11 asked me why I painted the rooms and I told her to make it look clean and we want to keep it clean so it will sale. She said her daddy wasn't going to sale that house. I said yes we are. She balled her lips and told fil when he walked in. Of coarse he had to put his two cents in and told her how different tables belonged to his mother. By that time my h walked In and she spouted to him that I said he was goug to sale. He said to hER yes we are. I'm so frustrated that they refer to things I have had for years as theirs but h assets as his. They been living here for 4 years. I'm in a way happy with h because she ask questions like how much property in acres he has and how much land tax I pay. He flat out told her it's none of her business. Her friend came over to spend the night and she asked if we could go to his empty house..I'm guessing to show off. It's fruatrating this 11 year old is acting like my equal. Now the reason why we go over to h old house is because he owns a huge shop that has projects he works on. She usually goes inside and sits at the bar and draws. H gavee a spot In Shop to do wood work projects on saws. Now she requested her a spot. She decorated her spot with wild flowers that died, a sign that says her area, and drawings. She gets my wood pieces and cuts them. I just don't even want to go over there when she is here. Am I being in reasonable in sharing with a 11 year old? I don't share with my 21 year old.
It maybe her BM training her
It maybe her BM training her because her BM doesn't own a home. They live in a two door car garage they made into an apartment in the back of the great grandparents house
My SD13 has made it clear she
My SD13 has made it clear she thinks she is going to inherit the house we live in. It belonged to DH's parents before DH inherited it. However, it has a mortgage on it that is more than the house is worth and I am helping to pay it off. So NO, SD, you are NOT going to be the single beneficiary of this house. Geez...
Then last night the entitled little brat started talking about the car we're going to buy her when she turns 16. She seriously thought she was going to be driving our new truck because her dad had talked about someday giving her the old truck her traded in on the new one. That was before the old truck pretty much bit the dust. So now she thinks I am going to help pay for a new truck and then just hand it over to her??? Good lordamercy.
I think a lot of skids are the most entitled kids I've ever seen. Probably BM's putting these expectations in their silly little heads, but my SD obviously has a lot to learn.
I don't mind her having a
I don't mind her having a spot in the shop. I do mind her moving things and getting into my wood and sand paper or my certain items I need and DH needs. I also don't mind splitting everything my h and I own together between her and my son when we BOTH die. It's the fact that at 11 she is already demanding stuff. He has some antique vehicles. She already claimed the best one. She even stated that her half sister that's not h gets some things. I'm not goug to argue with an 11 year old. It's just nerve racking because when she opens her mouth I hear her BM coming out.
I think it's weird that this
I think it's weird that this kid is claiming items. At 11, I didn't think about my parents dying and getting their stuff. The sooner you sell that old house the better. Then when she starts claiming items you can just say, "I don't know things get sold."
DH said her childhood at that
DH said her childhood at that house sucked. They never had any food because the BM spent his paycheck on herself pills, if any food BM relatives ate it, the power and water would always get shut off, they fought, BM rammed her head In sheet rock (which I repaired recently) , the house kept getting foreclosed on until he started getting money orders after he got paid In which she would go cash the money orders instead of paying the note (that sealed the deal of divorce and her cheating.) so no she did not have a good child hood in that home. Besides, all that took place when she was 3 . Her BM and half sister which hs was 5 at the time, filled her head full of bs. The truth is that h went over seas for 2 years after divorce to BM to pay for that house. She remarried and windled that mans money away (he too had a home paid for until it got lost), now they are divorced. H worked in Afghanistan and Iraq in misery for money to pull himself out of a hole at Rock bottom BM put him in. He bounced back up. He made the exact money back then with ER than he makes with me ( I saw his pay check stubs) I guess sd thinks he left her for two years that all that is hers. I dk .
I remember at 3 going to a
I remember at 3 going to a foster home where it sucked because I peed in the bed and woke up to a whipping where I shit on myself. At 5 I remeber being with my mom and dad In A trailer where he drank everyday, no power, trailer with holes in the floor were you looked down and saw snakes. After that my family moved to a dumpy hotel which is tore down now. Hell no I wouldn't want to relive that shit. At 11 I didn't want any of that old shit. I was emabrrest. When my mom married I was 10, I thanked my step dad for our beautiful home and pool. H house It looks good now because it's cleaned up. She's being bratty and head filled by BM.
My cousin and I often talked
My cousin and I often talked as kids about buying the house our Nana lived in when we were kids. He's now a Cambridge-educated doctor so he probably could at this point, but I doubt it. It's all about having the memories I think.
Dump the boat anchor of a
Dump the boat anchor of a house. Quick. It is nothing more than 1) An asset that has a bunch of money tied up in it that could be more productive elsewhere. and .... 2) A moniker of DH's past that is better disposed of quickly. At least Dh should lease it so that it returns some cash flow. Either sole or leased the SKid can't go see it at will.
I would sell it quick.
PigPen12 has been bugging DH
PigPen12 has been bugging DH and me for almost a year to drive our cars. We go through this Every.Freaking.Skid.Weekend. We got into DH's car a couple of weeks ago and he immediately asked me why I moved the seat. I looked at him in surprise and said I NEVER move the seat because it's in the perfect position for me, too. DH keeps the car doors unlocked when we're home. We now think PigPen was in there effing around and moved the seat.
I bought a new car last week. The skids haven't seen it. I'm just waiting for PigPen to ask if he can drive it. I plan to tell him "Sure. As soon as you pay it off AND pay for the insurance."