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End of March can't come soon enough

grace8205's picture

Just waiting for the end of March when skid is suppose to move out. I wonder if it is really going to happen. I have not heard a word from either of them about skid looking for a place or what his plans are. I think skid figures he will do nothing and things will just slide, but they won't, not with me.
Since he received notice to move out he still breaks the rules. Mind you the smaller ones, however I am just so fed up and filled with resentment it does not take much for me to be super pissed off.

Like the rule that food and drinks are to be consumed in the kitchen. I even reminded my DH that I don't want his son taking his morning coffee to his room because way too many times I have cleaned a trail of coffee out of the carpets all the way up the stairs leading to his room, not to mention I have found coffee on the walls and banister too. Don't know how skid manages to be so sloppy. I told my husband I had to enforce that rule once again in the beginning of February and got attitude from his kid about it. He said that was probably his fault because before that his son asked if he could bring coffee in his room and he said yes. DH said he will not do that anymore and that he will respect that I do not want to rent a carpet cleaning machine on a monthly basis.

Yesterday I came home from work to find a trail of coffee from the kitchen, through the hallway and big spills of it in the foyer. At least it is hardwood and title, but still skid always ignores the rules and it is always left for me to clean. DH comes home last night, I mentioned it to him but did not make a huge deal of it, I mentioned it that was it.

Today skid gets up at noon, goes to Tim Horton’s (Canadian coffee and donut place) grabs a large double double to bring back to the house and heads upstairs with it. As he heads into his room, I said “I thought we had a discussion about no food and drink outside of the kitchen including coffee?” Skid replies, “I got permission from my Dad, he said it was ok” as he gestures to his dad sitting on the couch in the upstairs loft. To which I replied, “maybe you and your Dad can clean the fucking carpets too”.

I walked over to my DH and looked at him and said, “I thought we talked out this?” He said “Ya we did, but I don’t want to piss him off”. That’s great you want to piss me off instead. I turned and left the house for a couple hours. I was so pissed off I was shaking.

I was so mad that we cannot look like a united couple in front of the kids, he has no balls over something so small, and he puts his not pissing off this kid about enforcing rules ahead of making his wife happy.

When I returned DH came and apologized to me, told me I am right and he just wanted peace in the house because if he says something to his kid then he will pout and get and attitude, start slamming doors etc. I still did not say anything to him. He continued to tell me he is a coward when it comes to dealing with his kid, which I agreed and it was not fair for him to put me in an awkward spot. I was too mad to still say much to him.

But now skid is totally ignoring me when I even speak to him and having a big old pout.

I will need to inform DH I will no longer tolerate being disrespected or made to feel uncomfortable in my own home. If the kid cannot be polite and civil neither can I. I will not cook enough dinner no feed him, I will do absolutely nothing. I will call him on every rule and his rudeness.
Just sick to death of this shit.

simifan's picture

Well, he gave you the answer... Pout & slam doors... though i would add screaming, no sex & locking him on the other side of said slammed door.

grace8205's picture

The skid was the one with the pout on. But there will be no sex with DH because it is not a turn on when a guy has no balls and cannot stand up to his 20 year old kid.

hereiam's picture

By the end of March, it would be really clear who he should not want to piss off.

Do these kids have some kind of blackmailing worthy information on these parents or what? My dad was never (and still is not) worried about pissing me off and my DH is sure not worried about pissing off his daughters.

If your DH wants peace in the house, tell him to handle his kid.

Stand your ground, don't let up, take your home back and come March 31, say good-bye to SS.

Start giving him boxes and tape to pack up his crap. I'm a smart ass so I might just buy a "Good-bye" card for DH to sign just so he gets the hint that it's really happening.

Rags's picture

Call and have the locks re-keyed. Put the POS Skid out on his ass and tell DH "Since you admitted you are a coward and have no balls when it comes to your POS kid, I took care of it. If he comes back you are both out for good. Keep that in mind. Love you sweety, good night."

Sootica's picture

^^^^^^This^^^^^^

LMAO that is brilliant Rags!

Your DH needs to be trained that upsetting you will make his homelife more of a nightmare than upsetting his precious crotch dropping. I had to do this with my DH but in relation to always giving in to BM's demands at the expense of us having disagreements me being upset but then just getting on with it.My DH hates confrontation so the next time it happened rather than just stewing silently and saying I don't agree with it I blew my top,went mental & then completely ignored him and skid for a week.It was as if they did simply not exist.DH has never ever done that again.BM's last minute schedule changes have come to a grinding halt,demands for more money over and above CS have stopped too she still tries her nonsense once in a while but DH shuts her down fast as he knows I'll make his life not worth living if he doesn't.

TheAccidentalSM's picture

I completely agree with Sootica. If the OP's partner is telling her that he is more afraid of upsetting the SS then her, she needs to start to get mad and make it clear that his life isn't worth living while she is upset.

Over way smaller stuff I've hit the nuclear button. YSS wouldn't eat a meal I prepared because we didn't have any Bisto gravy [for peeps in the US - this is nasty gravy granules] and then was really unpleasant about it. I took all the food and threw it away, grabbed my handbag, phone, book and left to go and eat on my own at a local restaurant. This made the point very clearly and needless to say we haven't had that particular fight ever again. I am way more scary than YSS when I get mad.