Clingy SD can't let us leave town
Tomorrow we are going on vacation for three weeks some place warm.
Every single time we are set to leave there is this pathetic attempt to cause trouble from SD34.
She gets more and more desperate the closer it gets to departure day.
One week before, she calls three times in one day and asks what day we are "free". What does she want? She wants us to take her to see this ice castle in the park. DH flat out told her no, "that's the type of thing he would take his GRAND daughters to" he told her.
The weekend before vacation, she calls because she's going to be dog sitting our dog and wants us to bring him over 4 days early. Again, DH tells her no, we're bringing it over the night before and no sooner. It's a control thing, is my guess.
Then, last night when we are out bowling with some other couples we get home at 10 p.m. and there's a message from SD that she wants DH to go to the hospital to visit her cousin (one that she has absolutely no relationship with). What the heck? I've never even met this young man (an adult) and he has a wife and kids and his own parents. Why would he need a visit from an uncle that he hasn't seen in years?
Just another attempt to steal away DH's time and attention before we leave. He e-mailed her a no. He has no time, has to finish his work at the office and pack his suitcase.
I'm glad DH has learned to say no.
Thanks Echo. I think DH has
Thanks Echo.
I think DH has gotten wiser in the last three years. He unplugged the phone from the wall after he listened to the message and went to bed LOL
I would rather board the dog, but DH has always just paid SD the once a year we travel out of the country and can't take the dog with us.
We pay her $100 and give her a nice gift from the places we travel.
Ignore and engage only on
Ignore and engage only on your terms and schedule. I suggest you find a boarding kennel for your pets when you travel. This whackjob SD does not sound stable enough to have confidence she would care adequately for your pets.
Oh God I hope I'm not getting
Oh God I hope I'm not getting a glimps to my future. But good for your DH!! Have fun on your warm vaca. Hope you have a nice sunkissed glow when you go get your dog.
Don't forget to SD a 1$ trinket from the local Walmart. Maybe a koozy that says the name of the city you went to.
Lol, when I saw your subject
Lol, when I saw your subject line, I was expecting your SD to be much much younger.
Thank you everyone. I feel
Thank you everyone. I feel the grip of winter and SD loosening already!
I always get her a nice thoughtful gift.
For Christmas she re-gifted to me something I gave her three years ago, LOL. I was happy to get it back, a beautiful Swarovski crystal.
I am indeed lucky, in spite
I am indeed lucky, in spite of having a morbidly needy SD. The rest of my life is total happiness, so I'm only here to vent every time I'm feeling a little over stressed. Like getting ready for vacation. I think the first time I posted was a week before tax day, and I was feeling the pressure, LOL.
SD always has a subliminal message in her madness. I gave her that gift, along with other things in a gift bag at a Christmas when I was engaged but not yet married to DH. I think her giving it back to me was a deliberate way to show her rejection, and get an inside joke.
At first sight I didn't remember it in all the excitement, so I thanked her profusely, squealed with delight and then told DH later that I recognized it. Let the facts speak for themselves and he can't deny or make excuses for her.
This year I'm going to turn off my cell phone so there's no more text messages "enjoy your free cruise". She tried to deny that too, but DH knew it came from her. He's starting to see her in a new light. The cat-fights at work between her and other women might have exposed her true nature.
That's what she tries to do.
That's what she tries to do. Get him to worry and feel guilty for leaving a so-called family crisis.
DH's own brother didn't even call to tell us there was a medical thing going on with his son so I am sure it is not urgent.
SD probably just saw something posted on Facebook and blew it out of proportion. She has no news, only secondhand news.