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just_tired's picture

Took my skids to the circus yesterday and we had an amazing time, they all behaved perfectly and enjoyed the entire thing
Today we went to my parents' for Thanksgiving, there was a total of 25 of us there. We all had a great time and fabulous food. Then Bat Shit Crazy BM & her mom came to pick up the kids, first visit BM has had in 2 months, because no one other than her mother will supervise her. She does have the option to use the parenting time center but that would require her to pay out money, hell she doesn't even pay her child support. So anyway I'm enjoying the quite time here at home with my DS10, but hate knowing whom my skids are with.

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StepLady's picture

I know what you mean!!!! MY DH wants custody of two kids with BM2 and I want that too for their own sakes and healths. But due to her being off the wall and unfit I worry when they are home with her, but also I too enjoy my life and the quiet more when they are not here full time. I know if they do live here, we can help them mentally and physically to recover from having a bad mom, but I too enjoy when I have a break from them. Not so much due to their presence here, but due to the high conflict of their mom and what the fall outs are from her when they leave etc. Do I worry when they go with her? Hell yes! Do I worry when they are here hell yes! All due to her selfishness and the shit she does to them in retaliation for us being good to them etc. But at the same time, we dont have much conflict with BM1 anymore or those two older boys, so weather they are here or not there is not issues. I do not really love her, but she is a good mom and the kids love her, so it is all good in that way. But I do love just having DH all to myself! He is my husband why wouldnt I? He is also less needy with out all kids here. When all kids are here, he loves it so much, he wants to snuggle all the time and make babies with me. I am still on fence about the baby making with him! Not because of what kind of dad he is, he is a great one to all kids, but due to my own feelings. But I do love the peace of just DD here or when she is with her grams, no kids! It is so quiet!