Aren't we over this now? Some agree some don't. Every man is not your dad, every woman is not your mother, ever child is not you or your many many siblings. Your dad sucked & your mom was crazy for reproducing with him. It happens. Your dad sucked.

However, crazy blog before yours blows your story out of the water & everyone is over this. LOL

You're still good in my book I agree that people need to be more choosy about who they f!ck. You knowingly screw a psycho? Or you don't take the time to get to know that person? You get no sympathy from me.

I just think there are some extreme situations, like the one where an op was falsely accused of child molestation, where Dad should at least see the kids outside of his house.

Wait....19 kids? Same dad? Can you elaborate? I know, off subject...but fascinating.

And in the words of Kenny Rogers..."you got to know when to fold them." sometimes you do gotta to walk away...rare...but sometimes it needs to happen. Like the post about the kid burning the home down while living two people to die in...yeah...I walk...or more like ruuunnnn from that kid.

While I'm not sure I agree with the absoluteness of your convictions, I do want to say that I find it appalling that anyone "bashed" you for them. I didn't really keep up on that thread (life got in the way) so I only saw the first few responses, but I do want to say this:

Everyone here offers opinions based on their own life experiences. Including you. That doesn't make you either wrong or right, but it DOES mean that you have the absolute right to offer your comments and let the readers take from it what they will. NO ONE should be telling you to censor yourself, and anyone who did is utterly ridiculous.

Evil Step-mom- I understand what you're trying to say and I agree whole heartedly with you.

There is a big difference in what you're talking about and teenagers that decide for themselves (whether instigated by mom or not) that they do not want their father in their lives. I don't think the latter would even be defined as walking away.

besides, who cares if people agree or not. These are YOUR feelings and are based upon your own experience, No one's feelings are ever wrong. Explanations are not necessary.

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I think it was more our opinions that offended you. No one asked you to change your opinion. Most were pointing out that there are a lot of different situations and sometimes the BD leaving is the right decision in that situation. Just because it wasn't the right decision in yours doesn't mean it's not right in others.

It's fine that you feel the way you do and it's also fine the posters feel different than you.

Just as you don't want to be judged by other posters, other posters don't appreciate judgement on their situations.
I didn't contribute to the last post because there was already a lot of great input, but I am one those women who's in love with a man who doesn't see his child, and guess what his daughter is only six. Guess what else? I'm a child who grew up with a manipulative mom and a dad who kept his distance because of it. Growing up I hated my father for what I perceived as weakness, now he is with a new woman who literally does not allow contact between him and I. She screens my calls, block they me from his facebook etc. etc.
Now that I'm an adult and have been through more life experience I realize that everyone is doing their best in life, we don't always make the right choices overall but we always make the choices that we hope and think is the best for us in the moment. My new SM is threatened by me for whatever reason and keeps me away, that's her choice and her problems, my dad chooses to comply with her that's his choices for various reasons that they both could probably defend with some well thought out points.
It breaks my heart that my FDH doesn't see his daughter right now, and I encourage him every day to just spend some time with her. But to him it's heartbreaking to see his child the way she is (alienated by her mother against him). I don't judge him for his decisions I just want to support him in the decisions he thinks are best for him and his family.
It is what it is, children without fathers is a sad thing, but to make such a definitive and universal statement like the one you've made is insulting to some people. Not everyone is you, and I have to tell you if someone made MOLESTATION charges against me, I would take a lot of time to allow the subject of those charges (the child) back into my life, once again, it isn't the child's fault but it is what is. That child belongs to BM and she is trying to destroy your life. Just be careful, you can't fix every situation.