DH and his BS and I are at odds re: cleaning room, picking up, etc....This has been an ongoing battle for months since we started living together. BS is 13 years old and lacks any skills to take care of himself. Has to be reminded daily to brush teeth, eat breakfast, etc...doesn't know how to wash dishes, fold a towel, make his bed, but laundry in laundry basket. I have asked to create some simple, repetitive chores so he not only takes pride in home but gains life skills but get shot down by DH. To top this off, I even have someone who comes in an cleans the house so this isn't like we clean the house. I am at a loss as DH feels that he needs to be able to relax and have fun when he is at our house. When he is at BM home she is a hoarder and dirty and I am trying to not go to an extreme but show him that he should have respect and pride in his home even if it's a part time home. Suggestions?