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BM dropping child support. .VERY suspicious.

Mentalgirl48's picture

Bf says he had a meeting with his x about back to school scheduling and stuff.He's been behind on his payments for awhile and it's a matter of time before the law grabs him.she is offering to DROP the support payments so that all he will have to pay is his arrears. Interestingly enough she stopped working back in June and it makes me wonder if he's been giving her cash instead of through the court.according to her fb page she's enjoying the hell out of not working and keeping busy going to events and things not with her kids of course...why would a bm drop child support? Kids are 16 and soon to be 18.

viv4's picture

Does she want to avoid paying taxes on child support? Isn't it taxable income? IDK
Then he cannot report it as child support paid on his taxes either...

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

Most states won't allow her to totally drop child support, especially if the kids (or she) are on any sort of state aid.

Child support is not taxable as income.

Orange County Ca's picture

The tax man gets his bite when the earner has tax withheld. The earner simply transferres that purchasing power to the ex spouse. To tax both would be double taxation of the same money.

Make sure he gets any variance from the court order in writing and her signature notarized.

It is possible she's just being nice - he is the father of her children after all. My ex and I did not have one discussion over child support other than for her to tell me what she thought she needed and since I saw it was reasonable I paid it. This was a women who babysat for her income while her second husband ran a small vacuum cleaner repair shop.

Madeleine78's picture

I can't really comment because my situation is very different and I live in Europe. I'm a BM receiving child support. My ex has tried to come up with agreements between just the two of us, but I know better and it's best to get anything in writing.

There is a reason for everything, so yes, I would question her reasoning, especially since she's not working. Personally, my kids are a lot younger and I am working, but I don't know how I could get by without the financial support of their dad. Over here, child support is taxable income and deductible when you are the parent paying it.

Mentalgirl48's picture

She isn't on any assistance neither are the kids..I dont know what or who she's living off of..I suspect she has a young sugar daddy accoeding to her fb pics..I watch our finances very closely and his paychecks go directly in out account. He fell behind because he was in between jobs and didn't notify email courts.

Calypso1977's picture

private arrangements that arent filed with the court are extremely dangerous.

if he stops paying or reduces payment on her word alone, she can later slap him with penalties saying he didnt pay. given that he's already in arrears, she'd have a very, very strong case.