OT- boy /girl sleep overs

My BS just turned 9. The neighbor girl will turn 10 in a couple of days.

They are the only kids around the same age in our neighborhood. They play together ALL the time. They play very well together and get along. I quite enjoy having the little girl over as she is polite, funny, just a good kid over all.

Well BS has been asking for a sleep over. They play together all day, yet they still want to play some more. LOL

Of course he really doesnt see it as he is a boy and she is a girl. He just sees them as friends and doesn't think much past that.

I wouldnt feel comfortable with them sleeping in the same area, as I dont want to start something then years later if they become closer. *years later as in teenagers*

But isnt the whole point of a sleepover is staying up late, in sleeping bags on the living room floor, telling stories, watching movies, etc.

I mentioned something to DH about it, to see what he thought and he said he didnt see anything wrong with it as long as they slept in different rooms. Even her mom seemed okay with it.

I dont really see anything wrong with it as they are still young. Now give it 2 years, it will definetly be something different.

Thoughts?

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I think it's okay. I was

I think it's okay. I was allowed to have coed sleepovers at that age...If they were like 13 I would say no way but 9 and 10 are okay...

My SS has had girls sleep

My SS has had girls sleep over when he was that age. We would just have her sleep in his sister's room at night. Now that he's 12... no way.

I don't know where you live

I don't know where you live or what the weather is like or anything, but, what if you did like a camp out/sleep in a tent in the backyard thing? This way it's not really setting the precedent of "sleepovers" even in separate rooms and can be sort of considered a one time special occasion deal?

It is definitely fine at that

It is definitely fine at that age. Up until I was about 15 I had two close friends who were male. My closest friends really. Totally platonic. Given that they both ended up coming out as adults, not surprising! But I never felt anything other than sisterly love for them and loved sleepovers. If you'd feel better, bunk them in the living room.

I'm against the boy/girl

I'm against the boy/girl sleep overs even if they are only 9-10. Kids grow up faster these days with TV, internet, social media, etc. Many have ipods with internet on them and it is not monitored. When I was 10, I had a close female friend and she was not allowed to spend the night ever.

My neighbors grandsons are over frequently. They are 9 and 11 I think. My SD12stb13 is invited to events with them and we let her go, but when the sleepover thing came up a year or two ago, we said no. As much as we'd like to say yet, because they are good boys, you can never be too sure.

If you really want to try to make it work, you and/or DH should make a night of it as well. Maybe once it gets dark and you want them to settle down, you can all watch a movie or TV together and you and DH and the kids can all sleep in the living room together.

Better to be safe than sorry.