Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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Since the dawn of time I have
Since the dawn of time I have been working full-time. For the last 3 years I have been attending school full-time. When I made the hour move to be with DH I moved into a mostly automotive industry area, which sucks. It took me a couple months to get back to work and I took a job working at a body shop. I hate my job. My job is so mentally exhausting and painful. Last year DH took a job as a supervisor at a stainless steel design company. He works crazy and long hours. He pretty much does nothing but work. This leaves me with BS9, SD8, & SD4 ALL THE TIME. It really wouldn't be so bad, but SD8 is so exhausting. She is loud and demands your full attention 24/7. She has the mouth and attitude of a 17 year old PMSing. I do not ever get a break from her anymore.
Anyway, now that DH has put us in a position where we honestly could afford to live and continue to save on his income alone I have been thinking a lot about leaving my job. I struggle with the thought of not having any independency and I think I would blow my brains out if I didn't have something to do besides clean all day. I have ran through the thought of possibly finding a part-time job, continuing school and being able to spend sometime with my kids before they reach the age that they don't want me around anymore. I know I just bitched that due to DHs schedule I already have the kids all the time. My theory on this is it is way more stressful due to my job already taking a toll on me. In theory, if I could find a part-time job that I love I wouldn't be so mental drug down by the time I got home and would probably have a lot more patience. Make sense?
I have thrown the idea around with DH, but we have never seriously said this is what we are going to do. He always tells me "full-time or part-time if you aren't making what you are worth then there's no point in working anyway." Whatever that is suppose to mean.
Mostly due to life experience, I have been going to school in search of a degree in Substance Abuse Treatment. I recently came across a job opportunity at a counseling center right near my house. Not thinking much about it, I applied on Tuesday. They emailed me Wednesday and called me yesterday to set up the interview. This job is contractual part-time. I am not really sure what exactly the hours are like or what the pay is. I am nervous. I definitely feel like this could be a major door opener for me, but I wonder how DH will take the news if I tell him I took a part-time job especially if the salary is not that great.
So yeah, I really just wanted to share this news. I guess just wanted to hear myself say that if I am offered the contract. I am taking it. Regardless of hours and pay. Why? Because I want to help somebody change their life! I want to do something I am proud of. I want to do something I like.
If you don't love what you do
If you don't love what you do find something you do. Pursuing my dream job has made me exhausted, stressed, over worked and happy as hell. If your doing what you love you'll never work a day in your life. I say go for it make you happy.
I was a stay at home mom for
I was a stay at home mom for 2 years and I HATED it. I now am in a job that I love and can see myself here for the rest of my career. Go for what you want. My DH was REALLY upset when I first got a job because he felt I was leaving the kids high and dry. Not the case at all, now they have a happier mom to deal with. The time that I get with them has more quality now then t ever did when I was home with them all day!
yay for you! i hope they
yay for you! i hope they offer it to ya. u've given of yourself for so long, now it's time to feed your own soul
and yes, u'll have an easier time taking care of others when u've taken care of yourself.
*fingers crossed* keep us posted!!!
Go for it! Regardless what DH
Go for it! Regardless what DH says. You're miserable with your job, so that's what it is....a job.Even worse when it's a low paying job. If you do something you like, it never feels like a job. Think as a SM & survived, you still have your armor on