#1) Ironically enough the only person to wish me a happy mother's day was BM2. She text me around 10am and my jaw about hit the floor. We don't hate each other but we have never went out of our way to speak to each other. It was nice tho.
#2) So SD8 has not seen BM1 in over a year. BM1 never answers when we call or text, not that we really care because life is better with her out of the picture. But about every 3 months she'll call at like 11PM and leave a voicemail that she was just calling to say "Hi" to SD8. Calling at 11PM to talk to an 8 year old? ok.. If we call her back during "normal" hours she doesn't answer. Well guess who called on Mother's Day. Due to BM1's drug use and arrests and her just being a POS, BM1 and DH had agreed on "supervised visitation" EOWE at BM1 dad's house. BM! would never show up, whatever can't force her to see SD8. BM1 agreed to this because she didn't want DH to take her back to court. Anywho.. I'm just kind of relaxing on MY day and DH comes in and says "Do you want to ride with me to BM1's to drop off SD8?" I didnt say anything. His kid. His decision. Until he asks me after we drop her off if I thought he did the right thing by letting SD8 go to her BM1s house unsupervised. I told him NO. I would never have let it happen. Last week, he wanted to strip her of her legal custody and now hes letting SD stay over there? WTF. At 8, SD has so many issues its crazy. BM is a prositute who allowed SD to accompany her to the hotels on her dates. SD8 has more knowledge about illegal drugs then both DH and myself. SD8 is a good 115lbs and comes home from BM1s wearing her used thongs. SD8 has had more police contact due to BM and BMs BF (domestic abuse and drugs) than anybody I know. I'm like 99% positive that there has been some sexual abuse at BMs house. BM was court order supervised visitation originally and drug testing. The CO also read BMs BF is not allowed anywhere near SD8, which obviously is never followed. The supervised visitation was lifted after she started passing drug tests, but the judge told her the next time she was brought to court he was terminating her rights. uggggghh...
So DH lets SD8 go to BMs. Asks me if it was a good idea. No. Im sorry. I would have never let my child go into a hell like that. I would have had her ass in court a year ago. No wonder SD8 is so fucked up.
"It would break SD8's heart if she didn't see BM on Mother's Day."
I get that SD8 would be upset. The thing is ever time she sees BM she is a complete ass (worse than she normally is). BM has 100% screwed this child up. I don't really understand how letting her go over there is going to make that any better. Like I said, if BM really cared to see her she could have seen her supervised like she is suppose to.
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so.. Mother's Day sucked. #1)
so.. Mother's Day sucked.
#1) Ironically enough the only person to wish me a happy mother's day was BM2. She text me around 10am and my jaw about hit the floor. We don't hate each other but we have never went out of our way to speak to each other. It was nice tho.
#2) So SD8 has not seen BM1 in over a year. BM1 never answers when we call or text, not that we really care because life is better with her out of the picture. But about every 3 months she'll call at like 11PM and leave a voicemail that she was just calling to say "Hi" to SD8. Calling at 11PM to talk to an 8 year old? ok.. If we call her back during "normal" hours she doesn't answer. Well guess who called on Mother's Day. Due to BM1's drug use and arrests and her just being a POS, BM1 and DH had agreed on "supervised visitation" EOWE at BM1 dad's house. BM! would never show up, whatever can't force her to see SD8. BM1 agreed to this because she didn't want DH to take her back to court. Anywho.. I'm just kind of relaxing on MY day and DH comes in and says "Do you want to ride with me to BM1's to drop off SD8?" I didnt say anything. His kid. His decision. Until he asks me after we drop her off if I thought he did the right thing by letting SD8 go to her BM1s house unsupervised. I told him NO. I would never have let it happen. Last week, he wanted to strip her of her legal custody and now hes letting SD stay over there? WTF. At 8, SD has so many issues its crazy. BM is a prositute who allowed SD to accompany her to the hotels on her dates. SD8 has more knowledge about illegal drugs then both DH and myself. SD8 is a good 115lbs and comes home from BM1s wearing her used thongs. SD8 has had more police contact due to BM and BMs BF (domestic abuse and drugs) than anybody I know. I'm like 99% positive that there has been some sexual abuse at BMs house. BM was court order supervised visitation originally and drug testing. The CO also read BMs BF is not allowed anywhere near SD8, which obviously is never followed. The supervised visitation was lifted after she started passing drug tests, but the judge told her the next time she was brought to court he was terminating her rights. uggggghh...
So DH lets SD8 go to BMs. Asks me if it was a good idea. No. Im sorry. I would have never let my child go into a hell like that. I would have had her ass in court a year ago. No wonder SD8 is so fucked up.
WOW...what was his reasoning
WOW...what was his reasoning to let his DD go into something like that?
"It would break SD8's heart
"It would break SD8's heart if she didn't see BM on Mother's Day."
I get that SD8 would be upset. The thing is ever time she sees BM she is a complete ass (worse than she normally is). BM has 100% screwed this child up. I don't really understand how letting her go over there is going to make that any better. Like I said, if BM really cared to see her she could have seen her supervised like she is suppose to.